Posts Categorized: Healing Heartbreak

Why You Get Triggered in Relationships (& What To Do About It)

Do you get triggered in your relationships?

Do you become overwhelmed with feelings, come undone, feel crazy with your partner, have no idea why this happens or what to do about it?

If so, you’re not alone. In the short video below, I talk about why you get triggered in your relationships and what you can do to overcome these triggers so you can create the love you want. Click below to watch now.

Please leave a comment below telling me what triggers you most in your relationships, and what the lesson is that you’re trying to learn. Your awareness is your power. You can do this.

Love,

Shelly

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3 Steps to Regain Confidence When You Get Triggered

Last week I got an email from my ex boyfriend. He asked me for a favor — he wanted to get in contact with someone I know. And in his email, he spelled my name wrong.

To some people, this may not seem like a huge deal. So what, he made a mistake. But for me, this experience totally spun me out.

The reason I was so affected was because this interaction triggered my most vulnerable insecurities: feeling unseen, unloved, and totally overlooked.

Even though I no longer have romantic feelings towards this man, that wasn’t enough to stop the trigger. Because when we get triggered — no matter who it’s with or where we’re at in life — the truth is, it’s not about the other person.

What’s really happening is our old wounds are coming to the surface.

My deepest wounds center around neglect and abandonment — they …

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Hitting Rock-Bottom with Men & Discovering Real Love

I want to share with you more about who I am, and how I came to understand love and relationships.

My personal journey starts with me hitting bottomfeeling completely exhausted, confused, disheartened and discouraged about love. 

When I hit this bottom, I didn’t realize that I would open up to receive the biggest gift of my life – an understanding that we’re all profoundly connected to Love within (and when we rely on this connection, we create incredible lives from the inside-out).

In this video, I’ll share with you the details about why my relationships used to be disastrous with men, how I bottomed-out, the profound insight that changed everything, and how my life is completely different now as a result. Watch the video below:

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How to Rise Out of Feeling Stuck

As humans we’re programed to evolve. Not only biologically, but mentally, emotionally, and spiritually as well. We have an innate desire to become better, more whole, more happy.

But have ever noticed that while certain areas of your life and easy to transform, others are not? As a relationship coach, I hear it all the time: “I’m fantastic in my career, social life and health – but when it comes to love, I need a TON of help.” If you relate to this – don’t worry – you’re not the only one.

In this article I’m going to talk about why certain areas of our lives are more difficult to transform than others, and what you can do about it.

The reason we cannot make progress in certain areas of our lives is because of one, simple thing:

We don’t believe in ourselves or in the possibilities of what can

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Why We’re Attracted to People Who Are Wrong For Us

I’m asked this question all the time: “Why am I attracted to people who are ‘wrong’ for me?” The answer is simple, actually:

Because your wounded self is doing the attracting.

Now, I know the term “wounded self” can sound a little intense, so let me explain what it is.

We all have two selves – the “little self” (or the wounded self, the ego) and the “Spiritual Self” (the Higher Self, Spirit, Soul).

The wounded self is the part of you that feels incomplete. It’s the part within each of us that questions our worth and value. It doesn’t feel whole.

My wounded self, for example, is the “little me” who wonders if I’m truly lovable. She’s the part that feels flawed, unworthy, or disconnected from love in some way.

On the other hand, we also have a Spiritual Self. This is your Higher Self… your Soul

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