As humans we’re programed to evolve. Not only biologically, but mentally, emotionally, and spiritually as well. We have an innate desire to become better, more whole, more happy.
But have ever noticed that while certain areas of your life and easy to transform, others are not? As a relationship coach, I hear it all the time: “I’m fantastic in my career, social life and health – but when it comes to love, I need a TON of help.” If you relate to this – don’t worry – you’re not the only one.
In this article I’m going to talk about why certain areas of our lives are more difficult to transform than others, and what you can do about it.
The reason we cannot make progress in certain areas of our lives is because of one, simple thing:
We don’t believe in ourselves or in the possibilities of what can be.
In other words, we have limiting beliefs.
A limiting belief is simply a message within you that tells you you cannot be, do or have what you want. Many times our limiting beliefs are unconscious – they’re below the surface of your awareness. For this reason, you may not be aware that you have a limiting belief, but if feel stuck in a certain area of your life, you can be certain that it’s there.
So what can you do about this? A lot, actually. Here are the steps it takes to shift your limiting beliefs, so you can transform every aspect of your life:
Step 1: Become aware of the limiting belief.
In order to change, you have to know what’s wrong. Many people want to skip this step; they rather not look at their problems. But this just keeps you stuck. Instead, you have to investigate to find out what’s holding you back, so you can take the necessary steps to change it.
Ask yourself: Where do I feel stuck? What do I feel afraid of? What patterns keep happening that I don’t like? Your answers to these questions will guide you straight to your limiting beliefs.
In relationships, common limiting beliefs are feelings and thoughts like this: I’m scared I’ll get hurt. I’m scared I won’t find the right partner. I’m scared I’m not worthy.
In career or finances, common limiting beliefs are feelings and thoughts like this: I’m scared I don’t have enough. I’m scared I don’t have what it takes. I’m scared I can’t do it.
Look within, confront the fear, and then you can take steps to overcome it.
Step 2: Can you believe that a different reality is possible?
We have a very particular set of beliefs that form based on our experiences in the past. However, what we don’t realize is that these beliefs are limited – they are based ONLY on what we’ve experienced.
Most people live in an “I’ll believe it when I see it,” mentality. This is standard for someone who has limiting beliefs. Let me show you why:
Anyone who accomplished anything will tell you that they FIRST believed in the goal, and then it happened. The belief precedes the goal. The dream, the vision, and the conviction in a belief is what causes the necessary inspiration and forces to make it happen.
If you don’t believe in it, it cannot come true. Therefore, in order to shift your own limiting beliefs, you have to believe in an alternative possibility before it becomes realty. I like to call these “higher beliefs.”
Reaching to higher beliefs in relationships may look like this:
Is it possible for me to believe there’s an incredible partner out there for me? It it possible for me to believe that I am worthy of great love?
In money and career, the higher beliefs are these:
Can I believe that I CAN make it happen? Can I believe that I can create abundance and happiness in my life? Can I believe that I have a purpose in this world?
If you reach deep enough, you WILL be able to believe in these alternative, non-limiting beliefs. And once you do, you are on your way.
3. Stay connected to the new reality, and it will come true.
Everything that exists begins as a thought. When you stay connected to higher beliefs that say “you can and you will,” there is no choice but for it to come true. The more committed you are to the better reality (the higher belief), the faster it will happen.
When your fear-based, limiting beliefs arise again (and they will), simply dig-deep and connect into the higher belief again. You’ll have to do this over and over again; the more you do it, the more the higher belief becomes your truth.
By orienting yourself to the highest possibilities, you will transform your life into the greatest it can be. Transcend your limiting beliefs, and you can have anything you want.
Please leave a comment below telling us one of your limiting beliefs, and the higher belief you’re going to transcend it with. I look forward to hearing from you.