Manifesting isn’t magic or voodoo. The concept actually makes a lot of practical sense: When you believe something’s going to happen and you focus your energy on it happening… it does.
So if manifesting is this simple, how come it’s difficult for so many people to accomplish, especially when it comes to love and relationships?
Because our limiting beliefs get in the way of us creating the love we want!
In essence, a limiting belief is any internal message that tells you you can’t have the type of relationship you want.
These beliefs come in many forms (such as thoughts and/or feelings) and they’re sneaky – sometimes we don’t even know we have them! For example, common limiting beliefs that many of us carry are messages such as these:
“I don’t really believe I can find love.”
“All men are going to let me down.”
“I’m scared of being disappointed again.”
If you resonate with any of the statements above, then limiting beliefs are keeping you from creating the love you want.
But the good news is you can change your limiting beliefs!
You don’t have to live in a love-reality that doesn’t feel good to you!
In fact, you’re supposed to evolve beyond your limiting beliefs to create the life and relationship you want. It’s what you’re here to do!
In my program Manifest Your Love, I go into great detail about how to dissolve your limiting beliefs because it’s such a crucial step in manifesting an amazing relationship (and most people don’t talk about how to do this!). And in this article, I’ll give you an introduction to this process so you can start overcoming the beliefs that are blocking you from love today.
By changing your internal reality and dissolving your limiting beliefs, your entire experience in love will change, too.
Step 1: Recognize a limiting pattern that’s occurring in your life.
The first thing you must do to change your reality in love is recognize what’s going wrong.
Most people don’t like this part because it requires uncovering some painful stuff (I gently walk people through this process step-by-step in my course because it can be a challenging part of the work).
But the reality is: you can only change the things you see. This means you have to see what’s going wrong in your love life. So let’s start that process…
To identify some of the limiting patterns in your love life, ask yourself these questions:
What’s not working in my love life?
What are the ways I don’t like myself in relationships?
What are the painful interactions I have with partners?
Common answers will be: I feel rejected, invalidated, abandoned, or trapped. I feel like people don’t take me seriously, or they don’t see how special I am.
Write down whatever the limiting patterns are (I know this isn’t fun, but doing so is necessary to create the change you want); when you’re finished, move to the next step.
Step 2: Identify the limiting belief.
Once you identify what goes wrong in your relationships, you’re ready to identify the limiting belief. The limiting belief is the belief that keeps you stuck in this pattern.
So, let’s say the pattern is: I feel unimportant to people. Take a moment to feel into the pattern, close your eyes, and ask yourself, “What do I believe about myself that’s keeping me stuck?”
Do I secretly doubt that I’m important?
Am I afraid that others don’t really care about me?
Reach deep down and get honest with yourself. Again, this isn’t easy, but it will help you move beyond your issues in love. Once you identify the limiting belief, move on to the next step (the fun part!)…
Step 3: Love yourself the way you want to be loved.
Our limiting beliefs cause us to seek people we hope will heal our wounds.
But the problem is, we always manifest what we believe about ourselves – so instead of finding a cure in another person, our wounds get reactivated again and again! This is why we repeat painful patterns in relationships.
Now that you’ve discovered the limiting belief that’s holding you back, it’s time for you to love yourself the way you want to be loved.
This means you must learn to give yourself the thing you’re seeking from another person.
That’s right – You’re Love is the answer.
Once you love yourself through these wounds, the pattern will be broken, and you’ll start attracting partners who are incredible for you.
So how to do that? By calling upon your higher self – your soul, the connection to love within you.
Sticking with the example above, if you secretly question if you’re important, then you need to meditate into a centered place and find the essence within you that transcends the limiting belief. It’s a message deep in your heart that says:
You’ve always been important.
And you’ll always be important.
It’s as if your adult self (higher self) extends it’s hand to your wounded self (the little one inside of you), and says, “I’m here with you now and I’m never going to leave you. I see you. I accept you. I care about you. You are loved and always will be.”
When you can sincerely feel your own importance from the inside-out, your limiting pattern will be broken. The belief shifts, you know your worth on a deeper level, and the quality of your relationships will significantly improve as a result. This is the ultimate secret to manifesting the love of your life.
Trust me when I say that you are very powerful. You’re here to create the love and the life that you desire. Align to the deepest sense of love and truth within you, and love you’ve always been looking for will be yours.
Please leave a comment below telling us the limiting belief that you are going to transform in order to create the life you want.