We all want to be attractive to others… especially to people we desire the most. So it makes sense that we’d be curious about what turns on those people more than anything else.
I bet it’s not what you think it is…
It has nothing to do with what you wear. Nor does it have anything to do with how you look or anything else that’s external…
The biggest turn-on to others consists of one, simple factor:
When you’re most turned-on being yourself.
When you’re comfortable in your skin.
When you’re in your element.
When you’re owning who you are.
When you feel whole, self-sustaining, and shining for the world to see.
Simple enough, right?
Actually, it is. But we forget that it can be this easy.
As most of us know, the classic relationship story goes like this: We lose contact with ourselves in the act of trying to turn-on another person!
We become so focused on him or her that we forget who we are!
Outrageous how it works, right?!
When we lose ourselves in this way, we aren’t embodied or shining from within. Our energy shrinks and we become obsessed with what’s going on “out-there” (aka, “Does he or she notice me?”).
This effort to find attention from someone else is ironically how we become less and less attractive to others. But don’t worry – you can get back to yourself and starting shining from the inside out. I’ll show you how.
Below are 5 simple tips that will increase your attractive energy from within, making you magnetic to the people around you from the inside-out.
1. Breathe, baby.
Breath grounds you, makes you present, connects you to your body and your authentic flow. It’s a sensual act in it’s own right.
When you deepen your breath, you deepen into you. It’s that simple. It’s that important.
So just breath. Keep breathing. Let it be the anchor in all you do.
2. Get clear on who you want to be (the practice being this person).
We become what we believe we are – this is undoubtedly one of the most important life-lessons there is.
If you’re not taking time to wonder, “Who am I?” and “Who do I want to become?,” then you aren’t fully engaged in being you. It’s only when we prioritize self-reflection and getting to know ourselves, that we can fully embody our personal truths. Because you have to know your truth in order to live it!
Get to know yourself. Dream about who you want to be and then… go for it. When you commit to your soul’s vision, you shine in a way that is inspiring and irresistible to us all.
3. Bring your attention back into your body.
Okay – this concept may be a little confusing at first. It doesn’t mean, turn the conversation back to me. It means: always keep a focal point of attention within your own body (I keep my attention on my heart; your solar plexus or gut is another place to pay attention to) when you’re interacting with others.
Here’s why this is so important: Embodiment is the act of remaining conscious. It’s staying present to how you feel at any given moment. When you’re embodied, you’re highly attuned to yourself and others.
We all know how easy it is to get distracted – especially when we desire attention from another person. But if you commit to keeping a small amount of attention within yourself, your energy stays alive, and you remain completely turned-on.
It’s a win-win for you and everyone around you, too.
4. Ask yourself, “How can I turn myself on?”
I’m not necessary talking about sexually turned on (although that’s important to think about, too); what I’m talking about is: notice when you feel most alive.
When are you most yourself?
When are you happiest?
When are you passionate and free?
Find the juice in your life and then… go for it! And, remember, juicy is unique for everyone. A mathematician might find juicy in calculus, and that’s still hot as long as it’s authentic to him.
When you engage with life in a way that is authentic you, passion streams through your body. Your energy and enjoyment becomes contagious; there’s no other choice but for other’s to get turned-on by your energy, too.
5. Remind yourself, “The real me is the most attractive.”
The real you is the most turned-on version of you. Always.
The real you is not narcissistic. It’s not inflated or entitled or trying to get other people’s attention. Arrogance is NOT hot.
What’s attractive is radical self-acceptance. It’s the humble energy of, “I know who I am and I’m not afraid to own it.” This takes courage; it’s something we all admire in others.
Don’t be afraid to let yourself fully shine. Don’t be afraid to turn yourself on!
Your passion and energy will always turn-on the people around you, and trust me when I say: we could all use a lot more of that.
Please leave a comment below telling us the one thing you’re going to do to turn yourself on this week. I look forward to hearing from you!