: 18 January 2015

4 Simple Steps to Attract Money Into Your Life

Wealth – like happiness, confidence, and love – starts from within. This truth can be challenging to grasp at first; most of us are convinced that wealth has everything to do with how much money we have in the bank.

Now, don’t get me wrong, I understand that wealth has a lot to do with money. And I want to say upfront that there’s nothing wrong with money or with wanting more money! It’s just important to distinguish wealth from money because they’re actually not the same thing. Here’s why:

Wealth, first and foremost, it’s a state-of-being.

And when you learn how to have a wealthy state-of-being, then you’re in the prime position to attract more money into your life.  

In other words: wealth is the cause, money is the effect (not the other way around). 😉

In my course “Embodied Millionaire,” I teach people how to create a very strong frequency of wealth within because this is the very thing that creates more wealth in our lives (and it’s exactly what personally made me a millionaire).

By resonating with the energy of “wealth and abundance,” more wealth and abundance (in all forms) naturally appear in your reality. Remember: your outer reality is always a reflection of what’s happening inside you.

In this article, I’ll get you started on the path of creating more abundance by giving you four simple ways to align with “wealth within.”

These practices will shift your energy from fearful and intimidated with money, to empowered and confident with your cash. And the more empowered you feel, the higher your wealth-vibe will be and the more cash will come into your reality.

With that, let’s get started:

1) Get to know your money.

Anyone who feels disempowered with money has a tendency to ignore their money. We do this because we’re scared and intimated by it.

We avoid our bank accounts. We avoid our bills. We avoid our debt.

We avoid it all together, and secretly hope it will solve itself!

Well, I’ll tell a little secret: it’s not going to solve itself.

I’m sorry! I know that’s bad news! I used to live in the same dream.

But, there’s good news: You can solve whatever challenges you have with money. And you solve those challenges by first getting to know your money.

If you want to create more wealth in your life, you have to get to know your money. In fact, you have to be in a very real position with it, which means knowing the exact state of your finances (even if it scares you).

Start by taking very small steps.

Look at your bank account everyday and instead of spiraling into panic, stretch yourself to feel grateful that you even have a bank account. Try to see your money through the eyes of “I have,” rather than, “I don’t have.”

As you get acquainted with your money, it will become less scary to you which will empower you a ton! And this experience of empowerment will set you on the path to calling more wealth to you.

2) Invest in yourself (also know as: Save your money). 

People don’t like saving money because it makes them feel “restricted,” and therefore disempowered.

If you feel this way, I want to challenge you to see this situation in a new way: saving is spending money on yourself.  

Saving money allows your bank account to grow and grow. This will eventually give you a cushion of money which helps you feel safe, comfortable, and proud of what you have!

As you save (even if it’s just a little), your financial-confidence and comfort will automatically grow, automatically attracting more abundance to you.

3. Uncover your programed fears about money.

This step I go into great detail in my course because it’s crucial if you want to change your experience with money. And it’s the step that most people don’t talk about (because it’s a little uncomfortable), but that’s not how we roll, is it? So let’s just put it on the table and talk about it…

The way your family dealt with money in the past has a huge influence on how you deal with money today.

In short: they’re patterns often become your patterns; they’re fears become your fears.

For this reason, when you understand the financial fears and patterns you were exposed to in the past, you can move beyond them. This will free-up your wealth-vibe so more abundance can come to you.

To start to uncover your pre-programed fears about money, ask yourself these questions:

– What did my parents fear about money? – How did my parents act with money? – How do I act with money in a similar way?

This knowledge will create a platform for you to change your experience with money rather than unconsciously doing what you were unconsciously taught to do.

4. Find wealth in everyday things. 

Have you ever seen a sunset that’s so beautiful it overwhelms you?

Have you ever eaten a meal that’s so fantastic, you can’t believe you get to experience it?

Have you ever received a smile that absolutely warmed your heart? 

These are examples of pure, potent and basically free experiences of abundance, and they’re happening all the time.

The more you orient yourself to the “free” wealth that life offers you, the wealthier you’ll feel. And because life mirrors our internal state back to us, the wealthier you feel on the inside, the more wealth you’ll create in your life, too.

The bottom-line is this: if you want to experience financial abundance for yourself, start by taking the necessary steps to create a wealthier state-of-being. Doing so will not only make you feel like a wealthier person with what you already have, but it will also automatically draw more opportunities for financial abundance to you.

Please leave comment below telling us the steps you’re going to take to shift your internal experience of abundance. I look forward to hearing from you!!


  1. sallie on January 20, 2015 at 12:55 am

    Hello Shelly, I have tried to remember my first memories with money, or my parents relationship with money, but I can’t. I am definately one of those that ignore my financial life. I get anxious just thinking about it! I am also math phobic. I am an artist and would be happy if I never had to deal with money again! I make excuses for my fear, but it is real and I don’t know why. Sometimes I feel like I just don’t care, and live by “out of sight, out of mind”.
    Thank you,

    • Shelly Bullard on January 20, 2015 at 1:01 pm

      Makes sense that you can’t remember – it sounds like the patterns have to do with avoidance and ignoring (which show up as not being able to remember – make sense?). It also sounds like you have a limiting belief that you’re an artist and you aren’t good at math. I have good news for you – if you own a calculator and know how to do addition, you can handle your finances. 🙂 If you want to shift your experience with money, best place to start is by telling yourself, “I can do this.”

  2. Myra on January 20, 2015 at 5:05 am

    I absolutely agree that everything starts from within…Whatever you think you can do, you can achieved. Thank you for helping us be more attractive.

    • Shelly Bullard on January 20, 2015 at 12:09 am

      You’re welcome, Myra. xx

  3. Antoinette Barbe on January 20, 2015 at 5:39 am

    This post regarding “4 simple steps to attract money into your life” is very fruitful and that was my resolution for 2015 to start saving up some money and watch the outcome of it….(to stop spending on unwise items) I will start implementing this strategy this month and the months to follow and see how I go about…. Will keep you posted on how I feel about it afterwards…. (sure it will bring happiness to me when I see that my bank account ingrowing month after month. will keep in touch.


    • Shelly Bullard on January 20, 2015 at 12:11 am

      Yes! Let me know how it goes! I would love to hear about it! x

  4. Lovena on January 20, 2015 at 8:11 am

    Thank you Shelly,
    Coincidentally maybe, but your page just appear to my pc perfectly because I’m actually in a state of soul finding status here and as I’ve tried to read your writings, it makes a lot of sense though I’m actually of a religious type of person. It has a connection to what I believed in and it gives me a clear understanding and discernment of the things I questioned a lot around me. Just like so many other woman, I do have a very big problem with confidence. I had read q lot of books about personal development and I found so many things and understand different point of views.

    Yours is just simple and I was just able to connect easily with it.. Thank you, it helps me a lot and hope to find more and read more of it. Your an angel to me and to every woman.

    • Shelly Bullard on January 20, 2015 at 12:13 am

      Thank you, Lovena. That warms my heart. x

  5. Ada on January 20, 2015 at 10:29 am

    Thanks Shelly. I was afraid of money in terms of how much i owed, how much i have to spend and whether i have it or not. Reading this has reenforced my decision to have an open mind towards money. I have accepted my debts and monthly expenses. Now i am on to working out how to earn more money. I am not afraid of money anymore. I am in charge.

    • Shelly Bullard on January 20, 2015 at 12:13 am

      Awesome Ada!

  6. Lisa Frideborg on January 20, 2015 at 11:23 am

    Thanks for this great advice, Shelly. I need to start saving. “By consciously deciding to save, your money and your financial-confidence will grow, attracting more abundance to you.” really resonated!

    • Shelly Bullard on January 20, 2015 at 12:14 am

      It’s true, girl! Saving shifts the way you feel about money, fast! Thanks for your comment. xo

  7. Patricia on January 20, 2015 at 11:47 am

    Peace to you! The first thing I plan on doing to change my mindset is to get the ebook course called Manifest Your Love. I know that at this point in my life that I am stuck somewhere. After losing a 5 year relationship with the man I thought would be my husband, I find myself broke, without a job, homeless, but fortunately living with a family that wants to help me get back on my feet. But mentally, I’m fried. Cant seem to get my head together to make any moves, money, etc. I don’t know how I will get the money for the course, but I will be prayerful about it.
    Thank you for your uplifting work Shelly and I look forward to working with you.



    • Shelly Bullard on January 20, 2015 at 12:15 am

      Awesome, Patricia! I look forward to you joining. 🙂 Take baby steps – inch by inch into a new reality. You’ll make you way. xo

  8. Ignacia on January 20, 2015 at 4:27 pm

    Thank you Shelly for the advice it make me to have a courage to save more and more this year, infact ived started only last year, I am a signature addect you know i bought so many bags like Lv gucci and prada in fact i dont really need that, its only because all of my friends to have that. Spending too much money for the things that i really dont need. Now I am active for spritual matters, attaind yoga and medetating twice a day it help me to live happier with out buying something. Now I live a simply life go with friends eating in restaurant instead of shopping. I feel bless day by day feeling bettet and better.

    • Shelly Bullard on January 20, 2015 at 6:35 pm

      That’s wonderful, Ignacia! Happy to hear you’re feeling so good. xo

  9. Steph on January 20, 2015 at 5:52 pm

    I lost my job on Dec. 16,2014. My unemployed,net benefits were denied. I currently have $700 in my bank account and by next week I have to pay a total of $325 in bills. I have been applying to mane, many, many jobs and not one call. I interviewed last week but was told the hiring process takes about 1 month, and that’s if I am considered for the position. I can’t wait for one entire month. I have no idea how to stay positive in the middle of this storm. I have a bachelors and you’d assumed it would be easy to find a job in LA, but it hasn’t been. I don’t know what to do. Advice?

    • Shelly Bullard on January 20, 2015 at 6:30 pm

      Take the smallest steps to become hopeful. The more you spiral into panic, the harder it’s going to get. The more you reach for the feeling of, “This is going to work out,” the sooner it will. You can do it. x

  10. jenifer on January 20, 2015 at 9:13 pm

    Love it! Thanks for you!

    • Shelly Bullard on January 20, 2015 at 9:16 pm

      Glad you love it! xo

  11. Sugar on January 21, 2015 at 12:44 am

    Hi Shelly…I am new to your articles but I am really enjoying it.It has been inspiring and I hope you keep writing.I am not at my best realtionship ended and I have got no friends left.FinanciAlly i am getting better.But am trying everyday to positive and hopeful especially when there is nobody who is beside me and so i am really grosing enjoying your articles somehow picks me up at the right time when I feel am going down.
    Thank you and may god bless you
    Xo Sugar

    • Shelly Bullard on January 21, 2015 at 1:53 pm

      I’m glad my articles are helping, Sugar. Step by step, moment by moment, keep reaching for love. 🙂

  12. Kate on January 21, 2015 at 12:46 am

    Fab Shelly, thank you – I had already decided to make 2015 the year I ‘get to know my money’ (as sometimes i do avoid looking at things!) and also start saving more…The others i’m already working on and aware of – and i can attest that my attitude and relationship towards money has grown and got better so much in the past couple of years…. My parents were (and still are) so negative about money and see it as something they never have, during my childhood I constantly heard ‘We can’t afford that’ and still to this day they are like that! But oftentimes they can! I can see how it’s brought them down so much and affected their whole life, always choosing cheap reduced food at the supermarket, never buying what they really want, always buying things on offer (when really they probably didn’t even want/need that thing in the first place, they’re just buying it because it’s on offer!!!) Going on budget holidays that always end in some disaster scenario….then coming back and complaining about the holiday instead of saying how good it was!
    So i was scared of money, and thought it was so hard to come by, that I’ll never have ‘enough’ and that people who made good money were of a different breed and had to work ridiculously hard or were born into it – it was for ‘privileged people’
    Throughout my teens/twenties constantly had this over-riding feeling of guilt about whatever i spent my money on! There was always this very subtle conversation going on in my head – ‘well should you buy that? It’s quite expensive (is it?) Do i need it? (probably not)’ – i felt bad WHENEVER i bought myself something i wanted if it was not super cheap, and believe me I’m not frivolous!
    Anyway, long story short – I’ve learnt first hand that you can change your mindset, and when you do, more comes towards you – as you relax about it as see money as a blessing and good, and also using it to pay for things that enhance your life!….Including your savings! I’m still working on this, but i’ve come a long way! Money is good.
    Lastly, even though i’m starting up my own business and all my spare cash goes into that at the moment, i still give a small amount to two charities every month, and I give homeless people on a street a decent amount if i feel like it – this really opens you up to money being a source of good, and not scarce and it shifts your vibe….I highly recommend that to anyone who feels ‘tight’ when they think about their money and financial situation 🙂

    • Shelly Bullard on January 21, 2015 at 1:51 pm

      Thank you so much for sharing your stairs with us Kate!!!

  13. ^_^ on January 21, 2015 at 4:48 am

    I appreciate your growing number of posts on ‘wealth’ … last year Shelly, you helped me empower myself through heart meditation specifically.. I became more of a grateful individual, more aware of my thoughts and feelings, started dreaming more, feeling good and sharing more love.. I owe that to you.. With this new year, I want to focus more on career and wealth… So I definitely appreciate this ‘wealth’ articles.. Thank you!!

    • Shelly Bullard on January 21, 2015 at 11:35 am

      That is amazing to hear!! I’m glad you’re enjoying the wealth articles, too. I’ll keep it up 😉

  14. edward on January 21, 2015 at 11:15 am

    I’m going to do more positive affermations concerning wealth

    • Shelly Bullard on January 21, 2015 at 11:36 am


  15. Sheilah on January 30, 2015 at 2:46 am

    “Fear stifles our thinking and actions. It creates indecisiveness that results in stagnation. I have known talented people who procrastinate indefinitely rather than risk failure…” Dr. Charles Stanley
    Dearest Shelly thank you so much for writing this powerful blog. For pretty much my entire life I’ve been a prisoner held captive by chronic financial hardship; although I’ve attracted good jobs throughout my professional life and it didn’t matter that from 2006 – 2013 I made more money than I ever did in my entire life (on paper my income was nearly 6-figures). In 2013 I was laid off which I was thrilled about because it freed me up to pursue my true passions. I received a nice 6 month severance and promised myself & The Universe that I’d never return to the 9-5 world again…boy was I delusional! Due to my lack of having a “wealth-state-of-mind” today I’m back in the boat of painful financial hardship, behind in my mortgage, going through a divorce, no income, but seeking temp jobs, not booking my auditions, and procrastinating on launching my business that’s way over due! I’m sharing this not to evoke sympathy but to express gratitude to you for the gift that you’ve given me with the 4 steps. The gift of identifying my fears and relationship with money. Everything you listed in step 1 (Get to you know your money) about avoiding your money I do…it made me laugh instead of cry which was nice 🙂 I now feel acknowledged, understood and now empowered to move beyond my circumstances. These 4 steps are my new tools to work on developing a wealth-mindset. Thanks again Shelly God bless you!

    • Shelly Bullard on January 30, 2015 at 1:00 pm

      I’m glad it resonated for you Sheliah, and gave you a sense of what to do next. xo

  16. Michelle on February 12, 2015 at 6:18 pm

    I, Michelle Wiggins, am a Spiritual Millionaire! I love that you pointed out the free wealth that is around us to enjoy if we just bring our awareness to it! I am very excited to read more of what you have written as what I have read so far really resonates with me. I am currently working on my own mindset about money/wealth and my first sentence is one of my new affirmations, and I realize how true it really is, because every single day I have so much to be grateful for, so much so that sometimes I don’t even realize it!

    • Shelly Bullard on February 13, 2015 at 3:06 pm

      Awesome Michelle!

  17. Manu on November 2, 2016 at 1:48 pm

    Hi Shelly,I remember my dad saying always that save money wherever you can, money is really hard to earn. And my mom also had the tendency of saving money always. They can easily live a comfortable life but they sacrifice on their comfort to save money. I have been the same. But I hate living a life where I don’t want to spend on what I like, and living a comfortable life. Like I would travel in a bus even when I know I can afford a cab. I hate it, but my habits force me to do it. I want to get out of this trap,but don’t know how. I have worked really hard in life but to find myself a broke Everytime. My hard work has never paid off in the form of financial returns. And also, as you mentioned in the article, I am too scared of checking my bank account. And I get really angry Everytime I hace to pay bills. I don’t know how to change that. But one thing is for sure, living in such a scarcity mindset suffocates me. How can I turn my financial situation around?

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