Why I Had to Get Sober & How It Changed My Life

Today I celebrate three years of sobriety. Can I just say Whoa!

On one hand, I can’t believe it’s been this long and I’m so proud I’ve made it this far. On the other, life before sobriety is a distant memory; a completely different lifetime ago.

I’d like to share my story with you – what it was like, what happened, and what it’s like now.

While I’m not necessarily an advocate for getting sober, I am an advocate is making decisions that will significantly improve your life. For me, getting clean three years ago was the biggest turning point in my life and set me on the path of achieving everything I currently have.

With that, here’s my story about why I had to get sober, and how it changed everything:

It was Thanksgiving Day and internally, I was suffering. I missed my family. I was angry at my …

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How I Stopped Dating Unavailable Men

I’ve learned that relationships mirror our beliefs back to us. The patterns that occur in romantic love are clues to what we believe about ourselves and others.

I know this concept through and through. I’ve dedicated my life to helping others transform their relationships by changing their internal realities.

So you can imagine I felt annoyed, frustrated and disheartened when the man I was recently involved with began to feel “unavailable” to me.

Again? I’m feeling this again?

Yes. Again.

Apparently I had more work to do. (Ugh.)

Relationships are a process. It’s a journey, not a destination. You don’t arrive at perfection with another person and stay there forever; you have to keep striving towards growth. This, believe it or not, is what keeps things interesting.

It was obviously time for me to get back to work.

Here’s what I did:

When I started to feel those …

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How to Rise Out of Feeling Stuck

As humans are programed to evolve. Not only biologically, but mentally, emotionally, and spiritually as well. We have an innate desire to become better, more whole, more happy.

But have ever noticed that while certain areas of your life and easy to transform, others are not? As a relationship coach, I hear it all the time: “I’m fantastic in my career, social life and health – but when it comes to love, I need a TON of help.” If you relate to this – don’t worry – you’re not the only one.

In this article I’m going to talk about why certain areas of our lives are more difficult to transform than others, and what you can do about it.

The reason we cannot make progress in certain areas of our lives is because of one, simple thing:

We don’t believe in ourselves or in the possibilities of what can

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The Secret to Unlimited Happiness in Your Relationships

The secret to feeling unlimited happiness in your relationships is learning this simple yet radical practice:

It’s not your partner’s job to “give” you anything. In fact, when you let go of trying to “get” from him or her, not only will you feel incredibly happy in your relationship, but your partner will feel more inspired to give to you naturally. 

Why this this true? Well, trying to “get” anything from another person is just bad news. Let’s start with talking about why that is:

Expectations for someone to give you something (especially a feeling-state) leads to dependency in relationships. When you feel like its another person’s job to fill you up, it automatically means you’re not filling-up enough on your own. It’s very easy for us to project our needs onto other people and expect them to fulfill them. This is not what a relationship is for! If you …

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The Secret to Finding “The One”

We’re all on a mission to find “The One.”

We long to be united with the perfect partner who makes us feel enlightened, happy, and whole from the inside-out.

Today I have some good news for you. That person exists. And this is the biggest secret about finding him or her…

You’re it.

Yes… I said you.

You are the person that you find completion with.

You are the person that you find passion, love, and beauty with.

You are The One.

And when you finally realize this, you’ll align yourself to finding the most amazing relationship with another person, too.

Let me explain why…

Many of us are seeking “The One” because we feel like something’s missing in our lives. There’s a void, a sense of incompletion, a hole.

The logical way we deal with this void is by looking for the perfect fit “out there.” We may …

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