One of the most important lessons I’ve learned about relationships is this: How you think and feel about yourself determines how others think and feel about you, too.
I always knew this, but I didn’t realize how true it was until I saw it unfold in my own life.
Because of this, I’d like to share my story with you, about how I called in a man who makes me feel more incredible than any man ever has before. My hope is that you can use these lessons to find a partner who treats you magnificently, too.
In the Fall of 2013, I went through a very difficult time. A break-up and a painful family situation had left me feeling raw and devastated. I knew that in order to pull myself out of it, I had to spend most of my time finding and rebuilding the love within myself. So that’s what I did.
I spent the end of 2013 meditating, reading inspirational books, doing yoga, and connecting with my heart. All this sacred inner-connection began to work on me… by mid-January, I could feel that my heart was starting to heal.
During this time, I was reading a book that guides women to experience the divine feminine within ourselves. In this book was a description of a goddess that I fell in love with. Her name is Lalita Tripura Sundari, and she is the goddess of erotic spirituality.
My affinity for Lalita was strong, not only because I wanted to be her, but because I could identify inner-aspects of myself that were her. As described in the book, “Lalita is the goddess who most successful holds together the apparent opposites of executive power and sexuality, of sexual and spiritual love. Queenly and playful, she represents the most delicious form of the integrated feminine.”
“Yes!!” I though as I read that. Just yes.
The reason I’m mentioning this is because the portrayal of Lalita helped me strongly identify who I wanted to be in the world as a woman. She represented so many qualities that I wanted for myself – she made them real and accessible. Through the inspiration of her, I could feel the woman I’d always wanted to be start to awaken even more. As I teach in my course Manifest Your Love, this is a key secret to manifesting the type of relationship you deeply desire.
Everyday I would meditate into a heart-centered place and evoke the feeling of the goddess.
I am powerful.
I am playful.
I am sensual.
I am attractive.
I am love.
As I did this practice, I began to feel more and more like myself. I felt great inside – I felt like the real me!! Little did I know that I was preparing myself to attract a man who would see me as these qualities, too.
In the midst of this process, I went to a Valentine’s Day party with a friend. The fact that I was single at this party didn’t matter to me… I was connected to the great love in my heart, and therefore I felt it everywhere. I was happy and fulfilled just being me.
I’m sure you can guess what happened at this party… I wasn’t expecting it, but looking back, it makes perfect sense.
I met a man who saw me as the goddess that I knew I was.
He noticed me from across the room and walked towards me, in a straight line, through the crowd.
Outright he said, “Hi. Who are you?” taking my hand, “Is this ok? You’re beautiful.” He was playful and respectful. I liked his energy, and the way he made me feel.
The most incredible thing about our interaction was this: I knew this man saw me as I saw me… a powerful, playful, attractive woman, with grace, humility, and deep love in her heart. I had finally become the woman I wanted to be, and this man immediately honored me in that way.
And so, that’s where our story began, and it has continued from there. Several months since our first meeting, my connection to this man has remained as extraordinary as it was the first night I met him. It’s truly been one of the most beautiful experiences of my life.
After this happened to me, I deeply understood the truth behind all relationships: People will treat you how you treat yourself. They will see you how you see yourself.
When I experienced myself as beautiful, magnificent and worthy of love, this is who I became. How I felt about myself was mirrored back to me by this incredible man. I felt supremely loved, and it all started within me.
As I teach in my eCourse Manifest Your Love, if you want to attract incredible love you must start by finding love deep within yourself. Discover the love, beauty, power, and grace – own these qualities, and let them shine through you.
Once you claim who you really are, you’ll have no choice but to find a partner who sees you in this magnificent light, too. In fact – the more appropriate statement is… he’ll find you.
Please leave a comment below, telling us how you’re going to connect into the love within yourself to create incredible love in your life. I look forward to you joining the conversation and claiming the love that you are.