: 05 January 2014

​5 Ways to Find New Love in the New Year

The new year is a fantastic time to invite new love into your life!
It is a time of year when we naturally close out the old, say goodbye to what was, and feel hopeful for what’s to come.

If you are looking for new love this year, here are five steps you can take to make it happen:

1) Let go of the old.

If your last partner is still taking up space in your life (either physically, emotionally, mentally or energetically) then there isn’t much room for new love to come in.

So, clear the space. This could look a lot of different ways: putting away old photographs, going to therapy to grieve the relationship, or creating a ritual that symbolizes the ending (for example, you could write letter then burning it). Use your intuition to evaluate what would help you say your goodbye, then do that.

Once you finally let go of your last love, there will be a lot more room for the next person to come in.

2) Get clear on who you want to be with.

While, of course, there will always be lots of surprises when it comes to new love, it is really important for you to have a clear idea of the type of person you want to be with. Because if you don’t know what you want, how can you expect to find it?

The most important part of this step is that you’re able to feel what it’s like to be with this new person. Use your imagination to fantasize about your new love!

Do you want a partner who is adventurous; who you can travel and see the world with? Then imagine having that experience.

Do you want a partner who is committed to you; someone you can trust with your whole heart? Then imagine what it feels like to be with that person.

Setting intentions for what you want is one of the best ways to make it happen. This rule applies to love as well. Know who you want to be with, and remain committed to finding a partner who matches your desires.

3) Dedicate yourself to feeling good.

When you feel good, you look good and other people want to be around you. Really, it’s as simple as that.

This is not to say that you aren’t going to have bad days from time to time. You’re human; life doesn’t always feel good.

However, you can take your well-being into your own hands by making it your priority. Exercise, eat healthy, start a spiritual practice, and follow your dreams! These practices will make you glow from the inside-out.

When you make happiness your goal (with or without a partner), you will find that many, many people are attracted to you.

4) Do the things that you love to do.

People often ask, “But where do I meet people I want to date?” You meet them doing the things you enjoy doing!

I know it’s a little radical, but I happen to trust the Universe. I have experienced it so many times in my own life, and I have seen it happen to others. If you simply live your life in a way that feels good to you, the people who you are supposed to meet will appear on your path. You just have to have faith.

5) Have faith.

Ok, this step is crucial. Sometimes it’s the hardest one.

You have to believe that new love is available to you.

When you don’t believe that it’s possible to find a partner, it is very difficult to find one. But if you trust that you are deserving of love, then love will absolutely make it’s way to you.

Sometimes, unfortunately, our limiting beliefs are the biggest blocks we have to love. When we break down these barriers, love has an opportunity to come in.

You get to have the love that you want, you just have to believe that it is so.

Please leave a comment below telling us how you are going to call in love this year. I wish you all a very happy, healthy New Year, filled with abundance, peace, joy and love.


  1. LoveLove on January 6, 2014 at 7:29 pm

    I’m going to call in love by having the courage to be alone. I picked up a little book “the way to love” and I discovered “you can only love when your alone…you can only see with out your prejudices when your alone…arduous as it is:  dropping control, the need for attention, cravings of acceptance  etc., with out it brings the agony of loneliness. But , stripped is when your dependence and desire dies and a clear capacity to love is born.  With ceaseless awareness, infinite patience and compassion (for yourself) your dry dessert will blossom into LOVE.”
    I feel myself both stumbling and rising to the occasion, but I’m ready to occupy my time with loving me! And who ever he is will meet this raw me!

    • Shelly Bullard on January 7, 2014 at 6:56 pm


  2. Gwendolyn Hardin on January 6, 2014 at 8:15 pm

    I am welcoming new love by celebrating me daily and relishing my life, savoring every drop. Love will find me living loud and passionately!

    • Shelly Bullard on January 7, 2014 at 6:55 pm

      YES! Sounds great!

  3. Shalesha Shivonne on January 7, 2014 at 1:19 pm

    you have a few places in your text where words are missing sweety!for example: You get [to] have the love that you want, you just have to believe that it is so.
    the blog post was a good read by the way 🙂

    • Shelly Bullard on January 7, 2014 at 6:55 pm

      Thank you! I’ll fix it! 🙂

  4. Nath on January 8, 2014 at 1:00 pm

    … by embracing my past, drawing the highest perception and benefit out of it, by taking care of myself and by trusting in my intuition.

    • Shelly Bullard on January 9, 2014 at 6:06 am

      Lovely, Nathalie!

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