: 28 December 2014

6 Steps to Create New Love in the New Year

The New Year is a clean slate. It’s a perfect time for us to reflect upon and say goodbye to what has been, and to turn ourselves towards what we hope will come.
Because of the “new beginning” feeling that naturally accompanies the New Year, it’s a great time to attract new love into your life. I wrote this article for anyone who wants to do just that.

Below are 6 powerful steps that will guide you to creating new love in the new year. Remember that you are creating your reality from the inside-out. Use these simple tools are create your best year (and your best love) yet!

1) Say goodbye to passed experiences.

If we don’t properly grieve and say goodbye to what has been, we carry these experiences (and the accompanying grudges and resentments) with us into our new relationships. This is how negative patterns repeat themselves over and over again; it means we haven’t properly said moved on and goodbye.

To create a clean slate for the New Year, take time to reflect on what your relationship history has been in 2014.

Ask yourself:

What went well in my relationships?

What didn’t go well in my relationships?

What am I ready to say goodbye to? 

Write your answers down on a piece of paper and when you’re ready, burn it, emphasizing the finality of that part of your life. By saying goodbye, you’re creating a fresh platform for what you truly want to create in the future.

2) Get clear on what you desire in love. 

After you’ve consciously cleared out the old, you’re ready to invite in the new. The first step in this process is understanding what you desire in a new relationship.

To find out, answer the following questions: 

What characteristics does my ideal partner have? 

What does my new relationship look and feel like?

Who am I as a partner in this new relationship?  

It’s crucial to get clear on what want to make into a reality; clarity is an important step to make dreams come true.

3) Feel your new relationship before it arrives.

A powerful manifestation tool is dropping into your heart and using your imagination to feel the relationship before it arrives. Not only does this send a message to the Universe (and yourself) that you’re serious about creating a relationship, but it also deepens you desire and passion. Passion fuels you with motivation to stay committed to your goal.

If you want to create new love in the new year, set aside time everyday to feel your new relationship in your heart. Get to know it before it arrives, and you’ll be strongly calling that experience to you.

4) Love yourself. 

The most important lesson about love is this: a partner will reflect back to you how you feel about yourself and what you expect to happen in relationships.

Relationships are our mirrors. This means that whatever you fear will happen in a relationship, is very likely to happen. It also means that how you feel and treat yourself will be reflected back to you.

If you experience yourself as worthy, beautiful, incredible, and connected to yourself, you will attract a partner who reflects this back to you. And if you feel lacking or unworthy, these feelings will unfortunately be reflected back to you, too.

To attract an incredible relationship this new year, pay attention to how you treat yourself. Appreciate yourself, believe in yourself, say kind things to yourself, and you’ll on the path to creating a relationship that reflects these beautiful qualities back to you.

5) Confront your fears about relationships. 

We all have fears about love. These are the internal messages that tell us we can’t have the love we want. I refer to these messages as limiting beliefs. 

In order to create a new, fresh love in 2015, you can’t ignore your fears in love; you must look your fears in the eye and challenge their validity. 

When fears such as “the type of love I want doesn’t exist,” or “I don’t see any good relationships out there so how could I create one?” or “I’m too _____ to find love,” come up, ask yourself if these beliefs are really true? Or… is it possible they’re just you’re fears? See if you can imagine that an alternative reality can exist.

By questioning the validity of your fears, you are transcending them, putting yourself on the path to creating a better love than you’ve every imagined. (Confronting your limiting beliefs in an in-depth process, to learn more about it, click here)

6) Believe. 

An open-mind is priceless. You can only create what you believe is possible. When you don’t believe, you limit what will come into your life.

Start this new year by believing in love. Live your life through the perspective of wonder and potential. Open up to the endless possibilities of he Universe, and they will make their way to you.

2015 is filled with infinite possibilities for all of us. Let go of the old, connect to what you desire, believe in your potential, and you will create anything you desire.

Please leave a comment below telling us exactly what you’re going to do to create new love in 2015. Wishing you love, peace, and adventure in 2015!


  1. Angelina Hungerford on December 29, 2014 at 5:31 pm

    Awesome article and free at that! Wow a real honest person willing to share. This will be the year for me to find real long lasting true love.

    • Deb on January 2, 2015 at 4:27 pm

      It is a lovely article! However, as someone who still cares for a specialmale friend and is wishing to start fresh it is a bit general and needs to be more specific in order to be truly user friendly. I suppose that is why it’s free.

      • Deb on January 2, 2015 at 4:32 pm

        Shelly, how can burning a paper truly extinguish the love you feel for another human being?

        • Shelly Bullard on January 3, 2015 at 3:15 am

          It’s a ritual, and rituals help us transition into new beginnings. It’s not that burning a piece of paper will magically make all your emotions go away, but doing so can be a potent moment for you, if you allow it to be. It’s a declaration of what you’re ready to say goodbye to. Actions like these show a strong commitment to yourself, and therefore contain energy that can move you in the direction you want to go.

    • Shelly Bullard on January 3, 2015 at 3:17 am

      Good for you, Angelina. xo

  2. Lei on January 2, 2015 at 6:51 pm

    Ooh Shelley excellent post. Love #s 4 and 6. Love is all there is and when we believe with every fiber and cell in our being, miracles happen and dreams come true. 2014 brought me so much growing pains and I feel like I’m taking a deep cleansing breath as we welcome 2015. I just know this year is an amazing one for me, I hope it is for us all. Much love and light, Lei.

    • Shelly Bullard on January 3, 2015 at 3:16 am

      Yay 2015!! I have a good feeling about it too… Thank you for your comment, Lei. xx

  3. Tanyah on January 3, 2015 at 8:22 pm

    Happy New Year! Thankyou Shelly…I am finaly ready to acknowledg myself as someone is worthy of real love. AND…I actually realise now that it all starts with how I value myself. Ive heard it for years…love yourself and you will attract real love…love yourself first and everything will fall into place. The thing is; all of that means nothing to the woman who is trapped in a bubble of misplaced hope/loyalty or hurt. Well guess what…NOW I’M READY!!! I can alreaey feel the fear of change but I’m ready to stop feeling crappy about myself because of how I’ve allowed someone to treat me. I’m ready to start feeling good about being me!! lol Thankyou Shelly xxxx

    • Shelly Bullard on January 3, 2015 at 10:47 pm

      I LOVE this Tanyah!! 2015 is going to be a VERY good year for you!! Thanks so much for sharing!! xoxox

  4. Aimee on January 4, 2015 at 8:18 am

    Happy New Year Shelly! I think I am still holding on to negative beliefs from my past experiences in 2014. I was in a relationship I didn’t really love and this stemmed from a belief that the people I want don’t want me and that the people I don’t want do want me. I just had this play out in my life when I was really excited for a date and then I felt the negativity coming up and then of course the date never eventuated and while I was disappointed I was not even surprised. I really want to move past this negative belief in 2015 and believe that love does exist for me!

  5. Pamela M.K. on January 7, 2015 at 7:29 pm

    Thank you and I am ready for this great love to enter my life!! I have learned a lot about myself in 2014 as hard as it was … BUT I love myself and believe in my life. God and the universe will be it all to me… I can not wait to meet the man that loves me like I love myself and has real honest love for me and then for everything that goes along with me my son, my life, my family and friends!! Yeah to 2015!!

    • Shelly Bullard on January 7, 2015 at 8:26 pm

      Love it, Pamela!!! 2015 has a lot in store for you. xo

  6. Raul Trazo on January 8, 2015 at 7:41 am

    Hi,I’m on age. I’m already 37 and I haven’t had any real love relationship. This year I ventured for one with a woman I like, I need, and I want to be with. But somehow my mind would negate what I ventured out. In fact I set a time frame for this. How can I maintain positivity in love?

    • Shelly Bullard on January 8, 2015 at 10:55 am

      I imagine you have limiting beliefs about love – overcoming those inside yourself will change your experience on the outside.

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