: 21 May 2014

6 Ways to Make a Romantic Connection When You’re Out

So… you want to meet a new, exciting person when you go out on the town, and potentially make a romantic connection? Awesome! You absolutely can. Because when you prepare yourself for new love, it’s much more likely to happen.
Here are 6 simple things you can do that will set you up for meeting someone new and making an connection with him or her. Have a good time!

1. Enjoy the process of getting ready.

The better you feel when you go out, the more confident you are. And the more confident you are, the more inviting and attractive you become.

To ensure you feel good before you head out, your “getting ready” routine should be fun. Listen to music, enjoy putting on clothes, and pump yourself up — this will get you in the mood for a fantastic night.

2. Praise yourself.

Before you go out, tell yourself you look good! I’m serious!!

Our “vibe” plays a big role in how approachable and inviting we are. The higher your vibe (meaning, the better you feel), the more likely people are going to want to be around you.

So don’t be shy! Tell yourself (in a humble way, of course) that you look good! This will help you feel confident and attractive, which is great preparation to meet new people.

3. State your intention that you want to meet someone new.

Stating your intention is kind of like saying, “Hey Universe, I’m open to this happening.”

The clearer we are about what we want, the more likely it is to happen. Makes sense, right?

Stating that you’re open to meeting people when you’re out puts the experience at the front of your mind, which helps direct your energy towards it.

Before you walk out the door just say to yourself, “I am open to meeting someone tonight.” Then, remain open to it happening.

4. Make eye contact with people.

Many of us are much more closed off than we think. We’re scared to make connections with others, and it shows.

If you want to meet new people, then you have to connect. And the first step of connecting is making eye contact… so let it happen.

Remember, eye contact is a really benign thing. You don’t have to give your number to someone you make eye contact with. You don’t even have to talk to them. But by making eye contact with people, you’re exuding the energy of being open to making connections. This makes it more likely to happen.

5. Be open to talking to new people.

This is the next step after eye contact… you talk to people. Sounds obvious, but many of us don’t let this happen.

It’s just simple logic: having conversations with more people prepares you to meet someone that you actually click with.

Keep in mind that you don’t have to talk to everyone. Trust your intuition and only spend time talking to people you want to talk to.

If a conversation doesn’t feel good, politely excuse yourself from it (“I’m going to go hang out with my friends now”). Having good boundaries keeps you safe, and makes you more willing to talk to more people.

6. Believe that amazing people are out there.

We limit ourselves with thoughts like, “There aren’t any good men/women/single people out there.” And I’ll be honest with you, it’s just not true.

First of all, there are so many people out there! People looking for a person just like you! But if you don’t believe this, you’re not going to find him or her.

Instead…just believe. When you do, you open yourself up to a lot of potential, and that’s exactly the position you want to be in when approaching new love.

Please leave a comment below telling us one thing you’re going to do to prepare yourself for meeting someone when you go out. We look forward to hearing from you!


  1. LindaPoynter on May 22, 2014 at 7:42 pm

    Thanks, Shelly. I love your suggestions! I am going to talk to more new people everywhere because it is true, that there are a lot of really great people out there.

    • Shelly Bullard on May 22, 2014 at 9:34 pm

      Yes! Awesome!

  2. Misty Blu on May 22, 2014 at 9:22 pm

    I love your pointers Shelly, they make great sense! 🙂
    In the past when I’ve done my hair and makeup ‘perfectly’, I’ve walked out my front door feeling super confident and noticed how differently people have treated me.

    It was the outfit I had on that lifted my spirits in the first place and when I got myself ready the rest just fell into place.

    Do you want to know what the funny thing is though?…I wore the same outfit at a different time and it didn’t have the same effect- it was all in my head! Yes, honestly, it’s true. So I feel that depending on how good someone feels about themselve on the inside will reflect on the outside.

    You could have an endless supply of good men and women, but if you don’t feel deserving on the inside then it will never amount to anything.

    I feel you have to live to be the best version of yourself and then good things will happen in life.

    Also saying, “I’m now choosing to be open to the universe”, has had an unbelievable effect in my life.

    • Shelly Bullard on May 22, 2014 at 9:35 pm


  3. Alex on May 23, 2014 at 7:51 am

    Thanks for your comments Shelly,
    I am a guy, who as been following your website few months ago. It came across to me at the right time to help me out to understand the beatiful women. 🙂

    I trully believe
    everyone of us need to believe in ourselves and go beyond our appariencie, because
    the outfit is just part of our body , our body shape , etc.. but what really give shine to the whole thing is the power of our heart , and confidence given by our inner peace and believing in the universe, feeling the compassion.

    I agreed with Misty sometimes you feel completely different wearing the same outfit,
    because at the end, the things are in our heart !! we are heart not head !!

    What we feel is what we attract !!


    • Shelly Bullard on May 23, 2014 at 4:25 pm

      Yes! Thanks for your comment, Alex!!

  4. Ahsoka23 on May 23, 2014 at 8:35 am

    Thank you for writing this. This has been my problem. I have been so closed off to people and so turned off by the men in my area that I have been single, and I mean single for three years now. And it is driving me crazy. I will try the tips that you stated. Thank you. 🙂

    • Shelly Bullard on May 23, 2014 at 4:24 pm

      You’re welcome.

  5. Bonnie on May 24, 2014 at 1:31 pm

    I am going to try saying Hi to people more, and smille at them. I’ve been told I have a beautiful smile. I’ve purchased your e-book and can’t wait to read it!
    Thanks, Bonnie

    • Shelly Bullard on May 24, 2014 at 2:52 pm

      That’s perfect, Bonnie. Just greeting people on the street or when we’re out opens us up so much more. Enjoy the book – there’s lots of answers in there. xo

  6. savi on May 28, 2014 at 7:52 pm

    i need this at this moment , and see the miracle happened that i followed you at right time ,

    • Shelly Bullard on May 29, 2014 at 2:03 am

      Awesome, Savi!! Much love to you!! xo

  7. Tesfaye on May 28, 2014 at 9:20 pm

    Thank you very much!!! I am a man not a female. I believe that as you are kind, I need your help! I know my inner part. I love the love it self. All ways, I search a lovely, kind and open lady, because this is my behavior. Still I wait her. But I didn’t get her. Why? What is my mistake? please,replay for me your ADVICE. Thank you.

    • Shelly Bullard on May 29, 2014 at 2:05 am

      I’m sorry – I don’t know why.

  8. Laz on June 25, 2014 at 4:27 am

    I’m going to think positive and built myself up.

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