: 28 December 2014

How to Be Single & Hot on New Year’s Eve!

Being single, as much as being partnered, is a big reason to celebrate on New Year’s Eve. I know this can be difficult to see if you’re craving a relationship, but it’s true. In fact, it’s important to remember that it’s only when you’re able to celebrate yourself as a single person, that you will be able to celebrate in an amazing relationship, too. 
The quality of connection you have with yourself will always be reflected back to you in your romantic partnerships. Because of this, when you’re able to love and cherish yourself, it is then – and only then – that you’ll be ready for an devoted relationship to come to you.

If you’re single this New Year’s Eve, use it as an opportunity to celebrate you! Appreciate yourself. Take yourself out. Work-it like you’ve never worked-it before! Doing will set the tone for an amazing year to come.

Below are five ways to be single and hot on New Year’s Eve! Ring in 2015 with some serious love… for you!

1) Get dolled up.

This tip applies to everyday of the year, but especially on big holidays: Dress in a way that feels good to you! 

We can be fooled into thinking that people are responding to our physical features and clothes, but deep down, they’re responding to our energy. What this means is: if you think you look good, others will, too. 

Buy a new dress or suit, put on stockings and makeup, do a little dance in the mirror and work it… for you! Feeling awesome in your body and clothes will put you in a great mood and the bonus is, it draws a lot of well-deserved attention to you.

2) You are the light. Shine, baby.

Too often we seek something “out there” to light us up, but the real secret is: your shine, radiance, and confidence comes from within you. Light yourself up from within, and you’ll light up the world, too.

Before you go out on New Year’s Eve, sit with yourself quietly for a few minutes. Close your eyes and take some deep breaths. Connect into your heart; feel how it shines with love. Let that feeling of love grow and grow, and carry it with you. This simple exercise will guarantee a very bright night.

3) Appreciate the fullness of the present moment. 

Single or not, New Year’s Eve can be one of those holidays when we find ourselves chasing. Chasing the best party, chasing the next drink, chasing a kiss. Have you ever noticed how chasing puts a big damper on the night?

This New Year’s Eve do something different: hang out in the present moment and let it be what it is. Because the truth is: NOW is the only place the party’s at. 😉

When you notice your mind chasing the next best thing, drop back into the present moment and simply experience what is. Tell yourself, “This is exactly where I’m supposed to be – I don’t need to go anywhere.” Be present to what’s happening in front of you and you’re bound to have a memorable night.

4) Feel grateful for what you have. 

You have a lot to be grateful for. The moment to tap into this gratitude, you feel happy about life. On New Year’s Eve, let gratitude work it’s magic on you.

Leading up to midnight, feel grateful for all you experienced in 2014. Recall what you’ve learned and how you’ve grown. And as the ball drops, tap into the gratitude for what you’re about to create in 2015. Have faith that good things are on the horizon for you.

5) Know you’re already complete. 

Your fullness and completion comes from within you. If you cannot love and appreciate yourself as the amazing single person you are, take my word for it, you will not be able to do so in a relationship either. Feeling complete has nothing to do with what’s happening outside of you – it has everything to do with what’s going on within.

Dedicate a moment this New Year’s Eve to your spiritual practice – to connecting you to the deep sense of love and connection within you. Doing so will remind you that you, and your life, are exactly what they need to be.

Whether you’re content being single or you’re looking for a relationship, remember that you’ll always have the best time when you’re comfortable in your own skin. Let this New Year’s Eve be a platform for the most important thing in your life – the love you feel for you.

Please leave a comment below telling us how you’re going to work-it this New Year’s Eve! We look forward to hearing from you!

Wishing you love, light, and peace in the New Year! Big love. xx


  1. Heather on December 29, 2014 at 8:26 pm

    Thanks. I think I needed to hear that, especially about the chasing. It’s summer holidays here so there is the double up of seeing happy couples everywhere (I saw one couple literally kissing up a tree) plus the usual expectations of New Years. But I’m very grateful I have new friends to enjoy the evening with and I’m feeling relaxed about whatever the night brings.

    • Shelly Bullard on December 30, 2014 at 12:02 am

      Lovely, Heather. xo

  2. Lesley on December 30, 2014 at 12:20 am

    Looking forward to a new year and a new me! Bring back yoga into my life, learn the tango, read more and be happy on my own. Life is too short not to be happy. Good things will happen for me next year. Thanks Shelly for your inspirational words, onwards and upwards from now on……with love

    • Shelly Bullard on December 30, 2014 at 1:19 am

      Love it, Lesley! Happy New & Amazing Year to you! xo

  3. Nancy Taylor on December 30, 2014 at 12:25 am

    I will be ushering a Tower of Power concert on NYE, two, actually. I have met some terrific people at this venue and we’re all getting dressed up for work (and play). I have lost some comfortableness with myself (some nagging health issues have taken a toll recently) but I so look forward to tomorrow night. I do not feel the pressure to “couple up” just because it’s NYE. I’ll hang with my friends and celebrate their friendship as we ring in 2015!

    • Shelly Bullard on December 30, 2014 at 5:06 pm

      Sounds awesome, Nancy. Happy New Year!! xo

  4. Zanee on December 30, 2014 at 12:46 am

    Hi Shelly,It’s always lovely to hear from you. I must say, I am single and enjoying every bit of it, I think I am dating myself

    • Shelly Bullard on December 30, 2014 at 5:05 pm

      Date yourself, girl!! Love that. Happy 2015 to you!

  5. Debbie on December 30, 2014 at 12:50 am

    Lovely advice and words of encouragement. I’m siting here with my morning coffee, pj’s ,no make up etc…..and I feel gorgeous! Already! You’re amazing Shelly and thank you.
    Happy New Year!

    • Shelly Bullard on December 30, 2014 at 5:05 pm

      Awesome Debbie. Me too – tea, pjs, no makeup, & hot! 😉 Happy New Year to you . xoxo

  6. Aimee on December 30, 2014 at 1:02 am

    Hi Shelley, I am going to be single and hot on New Year’s Eve by having a few of my close girlfriends over for drinks and nibbles. We’re going to see where the night takes us, we will probably wander to a park close by to watch the 9pm fireworks before going out dancing! I was feeling a little insecure about the fact that I don’t have many people coming to my party but in a way, I think this is probably even better to have just a few close friends that I can enjoy the moment with rather then trying to entertain a big bunch 🙂 xx

    • Shelly Bullard on December 30, 2014 at 1:20 am

      Love it! Sounds fun to me, Aimee! Enjoy! xo

      • Jennifer on December 30, 2014 at 10:46 pm

        Aimee,I know exactly what you mean about the number of people showing up. However, a good friend told me that the right people will show up. That is what is truly important and makes all the difference.

        I wish you a wonderful 2015.


  7. Tina on December 30, 2014 at 10:39 am

    Thank you for reminding and for your inspirational words! I have been single this year after coming out of a 7yr relationship (2yrs were married). I’ve enjoyed every moment of being single and free, finding new hobbies and interests, travelling, many dates(!), meeting lots of new people and most importantly learning so much about myself mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually. It’s a whole new discovery! I went through heart ache recently and realise I still have to work on/with myself and to find my deeper self. This NYE will the first one that I’ve been out clubbing and I will be going on my own because the music will be awesome! Yes of course it would be nice to have somebody to go with to share the fun but I’m not afraid of doing it on my own and can’t wait to doll myself up for me and shake some moves on the night. Bring on 2015 because I’m ready to do it again! Xx

    • Shelly Bullard on December 30, 2014 at 5:07 pm

      Love it, Tina! Go girl!! 🙂 Happy New Year to you!! xoxo

  8. Michelle on December 30, 2014 at 2:23 pm

    OMGosh thank you for reminding of what I used to know. I will do some yoga then get gussied up but not sure I can go out alone. I do appreciate this article!

    • Shelly Bullard on December 30, 2014 at 5:04 pm

      I’m so glad, Michelle. xo

  9. olivia on December 30, 2014 at 2:23 pm

    I’m single loving me doing me and I worship me single couldn’t be any better I’m going to feel good on New Years with the right foot in left foot out and shake it all about just stepping into the new year..I’m just happy I’m not chasing on New Years ..im only chasing my happiness..

    • Shelly Bullard on December 30, 2014 at 5:04 pm

      Happy New Year! xo

  10. JANI on December 30, 2014 at 2:40 pm

    True true true. This is a great message for the new year. In fact couple of years ago I was urging for a loving relationship, especially at the end of the year every one greet each other and my co workers and friends come to me and always say do not be single next year. If I have heard such a message at that time I would have remained happily being single.( we usually expect to hear something out from ourselves).But though I am marries now …the love tank I possess within is still empty . The message gives me a boost to fill up my tank with the love I have for myself. why expect someone to fill it up..if I have the capacity to nurture my soul.
    Thank you so much shalley for this wonderful message. I wish you for a healthy, happy and uplifting New year 2015.

    Thanks again so much you

    • Shelly Bullard on December 30, 2014 at 5:03 pm

      Yes – filling up your own tank is necessary to be fulfilled in and out of a relationship. Happy 2015 to you! xo

  11. Sharee Deans on December 30, 2014 at 2:53 pm

    This year I am going to get all dolled up, order sushi and watch Twilight Zone on Sci-Fi…all of my friends are in relationships or married so I am going to take this time to reflect on the old year and get ready for the new year. I am learning to be content with my singleness since breaking off my engagement a couple of years ago…I guess I never thought that I would still be single for another year :/ but this blog has encouraged me a lot to not only embrace singleness but also to embrace me and love me just where I am. I hope you have a wonderful New Year. xoxo

    • Shelly Bullard on December 30, 2014 at 5:02 pm

      I’m so glad you are embracing what’s present for you, Sharee. That doesn’t mean you can’t also dream of what’s to come – keep the faith that you can create whatever you want in your life. xoxox

  12. Prisca on December 30, 2014 at 4:16 pm

    I plan to take myself out for new years eve. I’m buying a new outfit and plan to enjoy being with myself. Thanks so much for the boost of confidence.

    • Shelly Bullard on December 30, 2014 at 4:59 pm

      You’re welcome, love, Happy 2015!

  13. Leo on December 30, 2014 at 4:18 pm

    Shelly,What inspirational work! And so timely. Its the kick start I need to end the year right and continue in 2015.
    I wish YOU the best!!!


    • Shelly Bullard on December 30, 2014 at 4:59 pm

      Love it, Leo!!! So glad it resonated for you! Happy 2015!

  14. Ahsoka23 on December 30, 2014 at 6:28 pm

    I am so happy you wrote this article.
    I have been single for over 3 years and I am at this point in my life tired of being single. I would really like to date a find a partner. However, I am not interested in anyone in my current location. The men in this city do not interest me at all. I feel that I will have to leave this place in order to find someone of interest. I have hopes for the new year. I am thankful that I read your article today because it gives me hope, because I almost lost hope.

    • Shelly Bullard on December 30, 2014 at 8:34 pm

      I’m glad it resonates for you. Just one observation – be careful about having a big, limiting belief “the men in this city do not interest me at all.” I don’t know where you live but I know there are interesting people EVERYWHERE if you are open to seeing and meeting them. When I started believing in how incredible men are, lots of them started showing up in my life. It has nothing to do with location. Happy New Year to you!

  15. vivian on December 30, 2014 at 7:09 pm

    Hey shelly i got a chance to read your articles this year sand i must say its a blessing.Ihave been struggling with the fact that i have been single for two years now and had been obssesing about it alot leaving me with the fear of dying alone. This new year eve i am going acncigwith friends i and i will not put unrealist pressure on my self i will just be in the moment

    • Shelly Bullard on December 30, 2014 at 8:27 pm

      Great Vivian. I know it can be such a difficult lesson to learn but it really does work this way – the more you can appreciate your own company and deeply connect to yourself (so that you don’t feel alone, even when you are alone), the more you will be calling a new love into your life. Happy New Year to you. xo

  16. Ellard on December 30, 2014 at 7:19 pm

    A fantastic article Shelly. Great advice!

    • Shelly Bullard on December 30, 2014 at 8:27 pm

      Thanks Ellard. 🙂 Happy New Year!

  17. Lei on December 31, 2014 at 12:08 am

    This is a great reminder for everyday living! Happy New Year Shelley!

    • Shelly Bullard on December 31, 2014 at 4:56 am

      Happy New Year to you, Lei!! xoxo

  18. Alicja on December 31, 2014 at 4:34 am

    This is what I need remember everyday, cherish myself & be happy & grateful of what I have. Thank you Shelly. Love your everysingle post. Btw, I’m mother of two toddlers & not much time left for myself. Being in toxic relationship. Looking forward for better year.

    • Shelly Bullard on December 31, 2014 at 4:54 am

      Here’s to 2015 being an amazing year for us all. Yes – I’m sure 2 toddlers is a handful. Hang in there and try to make a little time for yourself. xoxo

  19. Valerie on December 31, 2014 at 4:37 am

    I just started to read your ebook and this article. I’ve been divorced for 8 years and went into an unhealthy relationship for 5 yrs. After that ended I gave myself some self-discovery time for 2 1/2 years and never felt better about myself. I decided to give dating a chance this summer and met someone that I really liked but it didn’t work out as he still needed to deal with his issues and couldn’t accept me as the person I am. I have been pretty hurt the last 4 or 5 months and felt like giving up on finding someone. The more I think about it, I know that I need to reconnect myself to me and be patience. This article has made me feel as I go out with friends on New Year’s Eve that I will be present with my selft and Shine. Thank you Shelley.

    • Shelly Bullard on December 31, 2014 at 4:53 am

      You’re welcome, Valerie. I’m glad you’ll do that!! Enjoy yourself. xoxo

  20. SU on January 20, 2015 at 6:20 am

    Hi Shelly,
    The more we practice self-love, the better we get at it! Everyone has challenges in life and we grow better at dealing with things one step at a time. I have realised it is useless to compare my life with somebody else’s, we may not know what troubles he/she has dealt with! Thank you for these simple yet profound insights!

    • Shelly Bullard on January 20, 2015 at 12:11 am

      Yes!! Awesome. You’re welcome. xo

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