: 20 October 2016

How to Experience a Spiritual Awakening in Your Romantic Relationship

A spiritual awakening is a shift in consciousness from body-identification (I am only this body, I’m finite, I’m separate from everything else) to spirit-consciousness (we’re all sourced from the same energy, I am more than this body, we are all One).

Right now there’s a huge movement happening on this planet towards awakening. A lot of people are moving from being solely identified as just a body, to experiencing themselves as something much greater…

As Spirit. As Source. As energy. As the Infinite Nature that we all are.

When we start to wake-up, we naturally develop a strong desire to know ourselves in a deep, intimate way. That’s what consciousness is – it’s a desire to know ALL of oneself.

Alongside this desire to know ourselves, a matching desire to create unbelievably deep, intimate relationships with others emerges as well. How come?

Because we are all One.

We want to feel and experience a deep, spiritual union – in ourselves and with all of life. One of the main expressions of this union in form is romantic relationships.

As you know, relationships provoke our energy, wounds, and love more than anything else. The good, the bad, the ugly. And let’s not forget the beautiful, exquisite, and mind-blowing, too.

Because relationships are so provocative, they’re the perfect experience for us to awaken in. By bringing awareness to the parts of you that emerge in relationships, you become more conscious. And that’s what you’re here to do.

Below are 3 tools to keep in mind as you embark on this path of awakening through romantic love. Let your connection to others be the map that guides you to the truth of who you are.

1. Your relationships are a reflection of you.

We attract what we are.

We attract the energy we’re resonating with; we attract the beliefs we’re aligned to.

As a spiritual being, you’re not just a body who has random encounters in life. You’re creating your reality, and you do so with your energy and beliefs.

When your beliefs are aligned with spirit-consciousness (with wholeness, love, and inner-fulfillment), you create a reality that mirrors this inner-union. Your reality and relationships are imbued with an energy of connection and completion.

And the places you’re stuck in the viewpoint of separation (not aligned to wholeness within) will be mirrored back to you in relationships, as well. These are fears and limiting beliefs, and many of them will arise in the context of romantic love.

To awaken in relationships, we must become willing to see ourselves in relationships. To stop blaming other people for what shows up in our realties; to know that if it’s here, then we’ve called it in. We’ve done so with our energy and beliefs.

Become willing to look at what shows up in your relationships with other people and contemplate how it’s a reflection of you. Doing so will awaken you even more to who you really are.

2. Your relationship will bring you face-to-face with fear.

One of the most challenging parts of intimate relationships is the fear it brings up in us.

The fear of not being met. The fear of being abandoned. The fear of losing freedom. The fear of not being good enough.

It’s overwhelming how much fear relationships can bring to the surface! Why does it happen this way?!

Because we all experienced hurt and disappointment in our early relationships. And these early wounds create a faulty belief system that tells us, “This is what happens in love.”

The good news is, this is not the end of the story. You’re here to evolve beyond these wounds – to know yourself as Love in every aspect of your life. And you’ll do so by pinpointing the fears that arise in relationships and calling them into question. Let me give you an example:

If you’re aligned to the belief that “I’m not going to be understood in relationships,” you’ll continue to create this experience in your reality (the experience of not being understood). As uncomfortable as this is, it’s also really good information for you – it’s an opportunity for you to awaken even more.

Once you see that you’re recreating a fear-based pattern, you can say to yourself, “Wait… I’m creating a reality based in lack and separation… Do I really need to believe that I’m not going to be understood? The essence of who I am knows that this is not the only possibility – this is not the ultimate truth about who I am.”

As you come face-to-face with your fears in relationships, you’ll get to see clearly where you’re not aligned with the energy of Oneness and Truth. This creates a roadmap for you to dissolve the beliefs that are no longer serving you, naturally advancing you into a more-complete experience of love.

3. Your relationship is a place for you to express unconditional love.

Loving someone for no reason.

Loving someone just because.

Loving someone so deeply that you could never, ever not love them.

These are all expressions of unconditional love. They’re expressions of who we really are.

You’re being called to become the embodiment of love. Love is what you are at the deepest level, and for this reason, it’s what you’re here to do.

There’s nothing that compares to loving like there’s no tomorrow; nothing more exquisite than saying “yes” to the person who’s standing right in front of you.

We live for these moments – we live to express love.

There’s a reason we never get sick of talking about relationships – they’re a potent container for us to see ourselves and experience life on the deepest level.

Your relationship is a spiritual path. It’s a way for you to awaken to all of yourself – to the illusions you’re still carrying and to the love that wants to pour through.

Say “yes” to experiencing yourself fully in relationships; Love wants to be known as you.

Please leave a comment below telling us how you’re going to allow your relationship to wake you up to the truth of who you are even more. I look forward to hearing from you!


  1. Abhishek on November 8, 2016 at 3:51 am

    This is truly inspirational.. Thank you so much Shelly for all these information’s!! Really Grateful..

    • Shelly Bullard on May 23, 2017 at 6:42 am

      So glad it resonates for you! xo

  2. Kate on December 13, 2016 at 3:49 am


    • Shelly Bullard on May 23, 2017 at 6:42 am

      Right back at you!! 😉

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