: 08 March 2015

The Biggest Mistake People Make When Manifesting

At this point, we’ve all heard about manifesting: the art of creating your life from the inside-out.
While many of us theoretically know what this means, we still haven’t had great luck with using manifesting to create lives we love.

“Sure, it’s fantastic to learn how to create love, cash, and experiences with your mind and heart, but how do I do it!?!”

If you feel this way, don’t worry, I can help you out.

In this video, I talk about the most common and easy-to-overlook mistake that automatically blocks our manifestations from becoming reality.

Learn how to overcome this mistake and the art of manifesting (making your dreams a reality) will get a whole lot easier for you. Click below to watch the video:


Now I’d love to hear from you. In the comments below, tell us what you desire to manifest into your life, and how your going to implement the trick from the video to make it a reality. I look forward to hearing from you!


  1. Aimee on March 9, 2015 at 9:29 am

    Hi Shelly, thanks for this awesome reminder 🙂 I’m currently trying to manifest a romantic partner and twice in the past few days I have pulled the Angel card “Decide to be happy now” which really mirrors what you’ve just said and what I’m aiming to achieve through my morning meditation and prioritising my self-care xxx

    • Shelly Bullard on March 9, 2015 at 12:14 am

      Awesome Aimee!!! xoxo

  2. Tonya on March 9, 2015 at 1:23 pm

    Thank you for this video. I just yesterday told a friend I am struggling with faith. And your email with this link came today. Things happen for a reason, and thank you for being a blessing in my life. And having the perfect message at the perfect time.


    • Shelly Bullard on March 9, 2015 at 4:20 pm

      So glad it spoke to you, Tonya. Thank you so much for sharing. xo

  3. maria on March 9, 2015 at 3:58 pm

    I felt this spoke to me … Yes, after 9 years of looking, searching, those thoughts of “lacK or where is he” has definitely entered my thoughts.

    I have taken your advice over the year, being the person who you want, having faith, and trust and aligning myself, patience… I hope my faith will help me with greater faith! I pray for my prayer to be answered. Thank you for sharing Shelly.

    • Shelly Bullard on March 9, 2015 at 4:21 pm

      Beautiful, Maria! xo

  4. jenifer on March 9, 2015 at 5:33 pm

    Thanks!!! My soul jump of happiness when i watched the video, because it know what are you talking about

    • Shelly Bullard on March 11, 2015 at 4:32 pm


  5. Amy on March 10, 2015 at 9:47 am

    Beautiful video Shelly, thank you for sharing your experience of faith in manifesting and how we can sabotage ourselves. You’ve reminded me of something I try to do but have lost in all my doubts: I want to focus on the *feeling* rather than the outcome of a manifestation.
    So when it comes to attracting a loving man to share my life with, I will focus on how that feels, and on how I can currently experience that feeling, so that I invite it into my life even more. The same goes for work at the moment, which I would like to feel more fulfilling 🙂

    Thanks for the inspiration and reconnection! xo

    • Shelly Bullard on March 11, 2015 at 2:11 pm

      Awesome Amy! xo

  6. Farzana on March 11, 2015 at 6:21 pm

    Thank you so very much Shelly for this video that has pointed out to one of the very important facts we have no sense of when in any relationship not only with men. Being connected to ourselves and recognizing of who we are actually prevents us from any abuse as well because we are able to see it, feel it and back off quickly before its too late.
    Focusing 200% on the other party will drive us crazy to a point that goes no where. The whole frustration and disappointment comes back to us because the other side’s energy field throws it back on us with the doubled force, one our own and the other is theirs. The results are devastating. We may lose control of ourselves, cry, need medical attention etc etc but we do not need to go through any of it if we know how to begin from, not losing ourselves and staying connected to us.

    When we are into someone fully, we cannot see how they are treating us, what they are saying and doing to us. We are in a state of mind where we do not exist in our own eyes. Its”them” everywhere. We even lose contact with the rest of the world world around us. We neglect everything else but them. I have learned from my experiences about my mistakes and they have shown me the other party’s abusive nature as well. When I was not respecting myself and was taking everything in the name of love and used to think that I was a devoted wife, they very well abused me in all ways possible. The moment I figured out that it was me who was doing everything and they did not have any contribution in the relationship to keep it continued, I pulled back and I was able to see who I was and where I was standing.

    This was not possible without God’s mercy and love on me and I am so grateful to him. I prayed over and over to God Almighty with all my heart to show me the meaning of life and save me from this web I was caught in and he cleared up the doubts, dirt and darkness gradually, showing me my mistakes and others faults in unsuccessful relationships. I was able to get rid of the abusive relationship completely. Now, I am learning what I need to learn and its beautiful. I am not running after anyone rather I am trying to have a deep and thorough understanding of myself and others but observing and listening to the beautiful messages from within. I am not being driven by my emotions but I am learning from them how to act or react to life by using them right. Our emotions and feelings are strong and we need to welcome and understand them. Life is the most beautiful gift we are given and we have a responsibility to make it lived wonderfully. My message is to everyone is to be yourself, it will teach you a lot, you will be able to meet your true self through different false selves of yours. Your real self is precious and is hiding deep in you, the environmental, cultural and social side of yourself might have veils and beliefs of many kinds, but when your true self starts connecting to you, you will see so many false beliefs breaking down and shedding off from you like they never existed. Every unveiling will be incredible toward your true self in this journey, do not rush, just let it happen and take your time for peace and love, it is worth it.

    Thank you again for showing this very important point to us, it was one of the part of my learning today.

    Best regards,


  7. Me on September 4, 2015 at 5:11 am

    I totally believe in the Law of Attraction and manifestations! I have had so manyexperiences with it! For example, one week I kept thinking about how I wanted to talk to a family friend. That weekend I went to a store and was walking around and then I bumped right into that person. You bet I talked to her…

    When it comes to men…….I am lost! Like I have said in other posts. I seem to attract men, but can’t keep their attraction They leave very quickly-sometimes within days!

    How can I stay aligned, especially with a man/or men that come into my life? I know everyone (the men) has free will, but I am the only constant. So I must be doing something wrong! I pretty much want to give up! After having the same thing happen over and over again, I don’t feel that men view me as potential romantic partner, but rather “just a friend’.

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Hi, I’m Shelly!

I’m a relationship coach, licensed marriage & family therapist, wife, girl mom, world traveler and… a damn good manifesting teacher.

On any random Saturday, you could find me hiking in the Redwoods with my family during the day AND relaxing to all songs on 🎶the foggy jazz🎶 station on Spotify in the evening with my man…

I’ve helped 125,000+ expansive, beautiful humans manifest their desires through my YouTube channel.

Over the last decade, I transformed my love life… I went from feeling terrified that I may never find love or have a family of my own to manifesting marriage, my baby, our dream home, and so much more. Now, I want to help you do the same.

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