: 22 April 2013

This is What Makes People Highly Magnetic (4 Qualities)

There are some people who just have it. You know, that thing… They light up a room. Eyes follow them. The spotlight naturally and effortlessly is drawn to them.

What’s their secret? I know, and I’m going to tell you.

It’s called Soul.

People who embody Soul are irresistible. Seriously irresistible. Like, I-can’t-take-my-eyes-off-you irresistible. (Uh huh, it’s that good.)

Soulful individuals are always being pursued. People flock to them. They look good, they feel good; they’ve got that thing.

Guess what? You can have that thing, too. In fact, you already have it. You just have to tap in and let it shine. That’s what this article is going to teach you to do.

In my course “Become Magnetic,” I teach people how to connect to their souls to become highly attractive in relationships. To give you a taste of that work, here are four soulful qualities that are guaranteed to light up a room. Get ready to turn some heads…

1) Center

The quality of being centered is strong and peaceful; assured and graceful; aligned and free.

It feels heavenly to be around centered people because these qualities are so desirable to us. They also aren’t the norm.

We live in a fast-paced, frazzled world, so being a pillar of peace is an oasis in a very dry desert. If you flow with grace and ease, no doubt people will be drawn to flow with you.

So how do you do it?

Easy. You practice.

In my course, I teach people the most effective way to center, and the good news is: there’s many ways to do it!

Whether it’s meditation (focus on your breath), mindfulness (focus on the now), or just paying attention to what is happening in the present moment, these practices will lead you to embody a sense of calm and ease.

People will notice. It’s a slight shift with a big impact. Train yourself to be here now and watch how others respond to your aura of grace.

2) Be grateful

The reason gratitude is paramount in attracting others is because it aligns you with a state of abundance. Abundance overflows – it wants to be shared. When you’re overflowing with good vibes, others will flock by your side.

Think about it… How does it feel to be around people who are grateful; people who are happy, free-spirited, and gracious?

Pretty nice, right?

Gratitude outpours. It’s light, joyful, and all-around feels good. When you feel grateful you become one with this delectable energy; it’s an absolute people-magnet!

Relish in all the beautiful things you encounter during your day, feel grateful before you go to sleep, and be thankful whenever possible. This practice will greatly increase your personal magnetism, guaranteed.

3) Live your truth

People with that thing have confidence. Not inflated confidence; not narcissism. It’s a deep confidence. Faith.

They know what they want, and they know that they’re going to get it. This type of unwavering conviction is extremely attractive to us because it’s what we all want, too.

We all want to know. We all want to be certain. We all want to believe. Therefore, those who live in this manner are utterly irresistible to us.

When someone speaks with conviction, we listen. We may not like what they’re saying, but we’ll listen. Conviction draws a crowd.

Guess what? You have conviction, too. You may not be aware of it, but you do. It comes in the form of your intuition, your higher self, your truth.

There’s a voice that lives inside you; it’s not in your head, it resides in your heart. When you listen to this voice you will be guided in the direction you are supposed to go. And as life unfolds the way you want as a result of listening to this voice, you’ll have found your truth.

There is not much more captivating than a person on his or her path. Listen to what the real you has to say, then follow through. People will always be drawn to you as a result to being true to yourself.


Love. Just love.

Love your city. Love your home. Love your food. Love your dreams. Love your people. Love.

Love the things that are easy to love, and stretch to love the things that aren’t.

When you love – fearlessly love – you beam.

You’re a light in the storm. You’re a smile in the crowd. You’re a breath of fresh air.

Love is that thing.

Involve your heart in all that you do and people will not be able to take their eyes off you.

Please leave a comment below to tell us how you plan on embodying Soul today. Remember, we all benefit from your shine.


  1. Kristi on April 22, 2013 at 12:24 am

    This is so wonderfully written and beautiful! Thank you Shelly!

    • Shelly Bullard on April 22, 2013 at 3:54 pm

      You’re welcome Kristi! Thank you!

  2. Erin on April 22, 2013 at 8:48 pm

    This was so wonderful to read! Best way to start my day and to get my intentions sorted with these 4 amazing tips! Thank you Shelly!

    • Shelly Bullard on April 22, 2013 at 10:28 pm

      Awesome! Thank you Erin!

  3. Louis Gonzalez on April 22, 2013 at 10:37 pm

    I needed to hear this today. It really resonated with me that it almost brought this tough guy to tears… (actually it did … just a little … hehe)
    Thank you Shelly!

    • Shelly Bullard on April 22, 2013 at 11:07 pm

      Aw, I love that! Tough guys have hearts too. Thanks for your comment!

  4. Walt on April 22, 2013 at 10:37 pm

    Shelly,THANK YOU
    I learned these four powerful thoughts (move mountains!) a few years back. Yes the results of this being put a smile on your face that does not fade. In the pit of your stomach, the feeling is over whelming and life you realize is just undonditional LOVE ( be children). There seems to simplicity of life unfolds and all you have to do is just walk down this “red carpet” and observe how it all unfolds.
    Now, why I am reponsding to you is I fully understand; but ask how in this Society and everyday journey one maintaines this LOVE. It may is as simple as you step out of the awareness, no more meditation( rebirth of pure energy as it is drained each day),; not sure of reason. If you have any hints, please let me know because I realized there is a Heaven on Earth indeed.

    • Shelly Bullard on April 22, 2013 at 11:10 pm

      Hi Walt, Thanks for your comment. In response, it’s not so much one big arrival as it is many, many arrivals everyday. We step off the path, and we get right back on. Every. Single. Day. 🙂

  5. Leah on April 23, 2013 at 9:50 am

    i love love, love lovee me! And there isn’t a better feeling in the world! When I get off balance, i look inside to see what is going on, and get right back where i know i belong: home 🙂 xzz and much love to all that read! X

    • Shelly Bullard on April 23, 2013 at 2:19 pm

      Thanks Leah!!! XOXOXO

  6. Melissa on April 25, 2013 at 3:38 am

    This is one of the best blog posts I’ve read recently. Great in all aspects. My favorite line:”Love the things that are easy to love, and stretch to love the things that aren’t.” Thanks so much for sharing yourself through your writing.

    • Shelly Bullard on April 25, 2013 at 5:26 am

      Thank you so much Melissa! Sharing makes me happy. 🙂

  7. Michael on May 6, 2013 at 5:31 pm

    Shelly, I love what you wrote. I love the beauty and the grace of your heart and your soul. Thank you for such a meaningful contribution, and for helping me along on my path, a path with heart. -M

  8. Cara Ferguson on June 26, 2013 at 5:14 pm

    Your words took my breath away, as would any other exquisite, resounding truth. Thank you for sharing your precious gift!

    • Shelly Bullard on June 26, 2013 at 11:41 pm

      Wow, thank you, Cara. This makes me so happy.

  9. Flavia on August 8, 2013 at 3:03 pm

    Thank you so much, Shelly. Your ideas are so clear and full of Truth.

  10. Natalia on February 11, 2015 at 7:44 am

    I adore you thoughts, Shelly! Read all your articles. And always feel good after. Thx for sharing.

    • Shelly Bullard on February 11, 2015 at 8:17 pm

      I’m so glad, Natalia!!

  11. Thu on March 4, 2015 at 4:12 pm

    Just love. Well said. 🙂

  12. Farzana Haroon on March 6, 2015 at 3:13 am

    I loved reading this shelly! Thank you I will be using these four tips to be my best high self.

    • Shelly Bullard on March 6, 2015 at 4:45 am

      I’m so glad, Farzana!

  13. Dionne Ramdeen on April 12, 2015 at 3:36 pm

    Well said. Thank you for sharing.

    • Shelly Bullard on April 12, 2015 at 7:59 pm

      You’re welcome. xo

  14. Misty on April 18, 2015 at 11:01 pm

    I am so inspired by these beautiful words and I am going to put them into practise because my ‘light has gone out’. But j need help with finding my truth. I have shut it out for so long and lost my way. How can I find my truth again?Misty

    • Shelly Bullard on April 19, 2015 at 12:30 am

      Follow your heart. xo

  15. Rejeanne on June 13, 2015 at 4:05 pm

    Wonderful! Thank you for sharing this valuable info. It made me aware of who I really am. It’s a wake up call in all areas of life. Tks again.

    • Shelly Bullard on June 19, 2015 at 3:05 am

      You’re so welcome! Thank you for sharing, Rejeanne! xo

  16. Ze on July 3, 2015 at 6:01 am

    I love this article Shelly! Totally agree with you on it. Awesome job..

    • Shelly Bullard on July 3, 2015 at 12:19 am

      Thank you, Ze! xo

  17. Danielle Kelly on April 12, 2016 at 1:34 pm

    You are spot on and do a fantastic job at conveying the message of love. I havethoroughly enjoyed reading your articles. Thank you for the beautiful reflections of your powerful wisdom. I look forward to your next articles .

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