: 02 January 2017

Why Am I Attracted to People Who Hurt Me?

This is a challenging topic… but it’s very important to talk about.
Do you feel like you’re attracted to people who hurt you? 

Ever wondered why this happens and what you can do to make it stop?

In the video below, I discuss why we are attracted to people who activate pain within us and what this experience is trying to teach us… what we can do to overcome this pattern to experience a new kind of love. Click below to watch now.

 

https://youtu.be/hIrPuAIBU6k

 

Please leave a comment below telling us how you’re going to use the information in the video to rise out of the pattern of feeling pain and hurt in relationships, into a new type of love.

Love,

Shelly

18 Comments

  1. Kelitia Newman Crowder on January 3, 2017 at 2:45 pm

    This was right on time for me! Thank you!



    • Shelly Bullard on May 23, 2017 at 6:34 am

      You’re welcome!



  2. Emeli Ericsson on January 3, 2017 at 3:17 pm

    Love this Shelly! Every once in a while I need to be reminded of it so thank you for sharing <3



    • Shelly Bullard on May 23, 2017 at 6:34 am

      You’re welcome!



  3. Randolph stein on January 3, 2017 at 3:29 pm

    That explains a lot about why I keep falling out of relationships



    • Shelly Bullard on May 23, 2017 at 6:34 am

      Yes. It explains a lot, doesn’t it?



  4. Shanna Whitlow on January 3, 2017 at 6:25 pm

    Thank you, Shelly! I am going through this exact journey and Spirit is helping me through you.Much love and wellness



    • Shelly Bullard on May 23, 2017 at 6:34 am

      Beautiful xo



  5. Nealedene Hoch on January 3, 2017 at 11:44 pm

    Interesting–and this actually relates to so many parts of our lives–not just relationships!



    • Shelly Bullard on January 11, 2017 at 1:50 am

      Yes!



  6. Liesl Bohn on January 4, 2017 at 1:02 am

    Thank you, Shelly. Fear of abandoment is huge for my ego. And my favorite person is 255 miles away! Yes, my universe surely dropped this lesson in my lap!Much appreciation, Liesl in Seattle, Wa. ✌



    • Shelly Bullard on May 23, 2017 at 6:33 am

      Yes! Good for you at looking at that fear!



  7. Luna on January 4, 2017 at 1:41 am

    as always – you help me to see things more clearly! thank you xoxo!



    • Shelly Bullard on January 11, 2017 at 1:50 am

      I’m so glad!!



  8. Michelle Composto on January 4, 2017 at 3:22 am

    Ahhh, finally. I’ve been searching for the next step in how to heal that wound. Thank you



    • Shelly Bullard on May 23, 2017 at 6:33 am

      You’re welcome xo



  9. Audelia on January 4, 2017 at 7:12 pm

    Hey Love your stuff. Has helped me heal so much Thank G-d.Can you let me know how to bring spiritual wisdom to the wound.
    Can you spell it out to me.
    1- the pain comes up.
    2- I look at it for what it is. Could be longing. Feeling unheard etc…
    3- then what?
    Thank you so much



    • Shelly Bullard on January 11, 2017 at 1:48 am

      Then just sit with it. Drop into the actual energetic sensations you feel in your body. You also can say to yourself something like this, “Oh… ok… grief is here… I feel it… I’m staying with it… it feels like______.” But ideally, you just be with yourself in it, feeling it, not running away from it. Lots of love! xo



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