: 24 February 2014

Why Women Are Dissatisfied in Love

I’m making videos! And….I love it.
I like the way it feels to talk directly to you in this new way. And I appreciate sharing more of who I am with you (it’s vulnerable, but worth it – I think I’ve heard that message somewhere ;)).

In this video I discuss why so many modern-day women are dissatisfied in love, and what you can do about it. Please leave a comment below telling me what you think (about the video and the topic). 

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Lots of love to you, xo


  1. Jessica Best on February 25, 2014 at 4:07 pm

    I love it Shelley! “We’re badasses!” Love it! It’s so nice to “see” you. You’re beautiful! By the way, I miss your radio show!!! Please start doing radio again!!!

    • Shelly Bullard on March 3, 2014 at 3:51 am

      Thank you Jessica!! So glad you liked it. Not sure when I’m going to start radio again, but I’ll promise to record more videos. xoxo

  2. Jessica Best on February 25, 2014 at 4:12 pm

    I love the video Shelly! “We’re badasses!” Love it! It’s great to “see you.” Since I feel like I “know” you already, this makes the connection even greater. You’re beautiful! By the way, I miss your radio shows. Please do radio again!!! I loved listening to them on my way to work. xo

    • Shelly Bullard on March 3, 2014 at 2:58 am

      Hi Jessica!! Thank you! I don’t know if radio is in my future, but how about this – I’ll film many more video and you can listen to those on your way to work!! 😉 Thank you for the lovin. xo (We totally are badasses – aren’t we?!?!)

  3. Jennifer on February 25, 2014 at 4:18 pm

    Loving the video Shelly! And I’m happy to see that you didn’t try to make it absolutely perfect in hopes to appear even more “professional”. I always feel like it’s more personable and real this way.
    Fantastic topic too! So important to understand and realize!

    • Shelly Bullard on March 3, 2014 at 2:57 am

      Thanks Jennifer! I actually got feedback that it wasn’t professional enough – but I don’t want to be professional. I want to be real. I’m just trying to share my true self with you all, which I believe will come out more and more as I get used to filming. Thank you so much for your feedback. xoxox

  4. Leslie Ziemba on February 25, 2014 at 4:30 pm

    Something I am really struggling with in my relationships. It unfortunately just ended one because he was so used to me doing everything and he was doing nothing to make me happy. On different paths in life. But lessons learned. Thanks for the video. Can’t wait to see more!

    • Shelly Bullard on March 3, 2014 at 2:56 am

      Great!! Yes, you need to get your over-giving in check, otherwise it will keep showing up with men! Glad you are recognizing it, Leslie. xox

  5. Lisa Frideborg Lloyd on February 25, 2014 at 5:19 pm

    Thanks for sharing this video with us, Shelly – you did a great job on it! While I totally get what you are saying and agree in part, I found that something within me has shifted recently. I actually don’t want to attract a masculine man – I want to attract a man who is balanced and centered in both masculine and feminine energy… a man very in touch with his feminine side (empathetic and caring like the King of Cups in the Tarot)… a man who is not bothered about me owning my own more masculine and aggressive energy or afraid that my biceps might be bigger than his.
    This is kind of a big deal to me because it was only months ago that I would have been saying pretty much exactly what you are saying here – believing it completely… and then I met a man who FINALLY feels like my perfect match… WAY more feminine than I imagined and I just thank my lucky stars that I kept an open mind rather than going for a certain type such as the pumped up Alpha I had in mind lol

    Life is funny!

    • Shelly Bullard on March 3, 2014 at 2:55 am

      Totally. It all depends on what you are seeking. I have been with men who embody more feminine energy, too. This works at times when I am more in my masculine. I just know for myself, that in truth, I won’t be satisfied with a man with excess feminine energy. I want to be the feminine in my relationships! The journey is different for everyone – so glad that you are following your truth.

  6. olivia on February 25, 2014 at 6:32 pm

    If I am going to cook for my boyfriend how can I pull back from that giving aspect?

    • Shelly Bullard on March 3, 2014 at 2:53 am

      It’s not about pulling back giving – it’s about pulling back over giving. There is a difference. Give in the ways that feel natural to you – if that is cooking, then go for it! That’s wonderful. Just don’t over-give, in the sense that you are giving to get or giving because you are trying to make up for what you believe you lack.

  7. Glen on February 25, 2014 at 11:51 pm

    Hey Shelly,The video is well presented. Looks good 🙂 It’s interesting from a my point of view as a man about the energy. I know that a lot of women show up at work with masculine energy and it’s sometimes hard to know how they would really like to be treated. I have experienced the same thing with my partner where she uses male energy to try and ‘control’ everything. It can be tricky to for a woman to encourage their man to show up as a man without taking over.
    Thanks for the video – looks good.

    • Shelly Bullard on March 3, 2014 at 2:52 am

      I agree. We are all taught that masculine is superior – and so the feminine (in us all) gets stifled. Both masculine and feminine qualities are important in both sexes. However, many women feel a deep longing in relationships and life, and part of this is because we have strayed from our deep, feminine essence. It’s highly problematic. But we’re going to change that. Thank you for your comment, Glen.

  8. Alexandra on February 26, 2014 at 12:07 am

    Hi Shelly
    Really loved your video – how can I subscribe?



    • Shelly Bullard on March 3, 2014 at 2:50 am

      Thank you, Alexandra. You can subscribe on YouTube (the red button next to the picture of me). Thanks for following along! xx

  9. Heather on February 26, 2014 at 12:19 am

    This was really quite helpful for me to hear as that is exactly what I do in relationships! I struggle with exuding a lot of masculine energy and can’t quite figure out how to bring forward the feminine. I feel very out of touch with it. What would you recommend are some small acts to bring out more feminine essence?

    • Shelly Bullard on March 3, 2014 at 2:47 am

      I will be talking about it more and more, but think of it this way – the feminine is the energy of movement and life. Shakti. Things you can do to increase the natural movement in your life is dance, spend time in nature, relax, reflect, go inward, pay attention to the natural flow of your emotions and heart, get creative. Be in the moment and welcome whatever is there. This loosens control (masculine) and flow will naturally arise.

  10. jane on February 26, 2014 at 2:09 am

    hi shelly, glad you showed more of yourself- i like you even more! thank you for the straight-up reminders.

    • Shelly Bullard on March 3, 2014 at 2:45 am

      Ah, thank you Jane. You’re welcome.

  11. Debbie on February 26, 2014 at 3:15 am

    A total eye opener! Talk about an “Ah ha” moment. This may change everything for me. Really resonates. Thanks Shelly!

    • Shelly Bullard on March 3, 2014 at 2:44 am

      YES!!! That’s fantastic! Sometimes all we need is a new perspective to see things clearly. xx

  12. Bhavana on February 26, 2014 at 3:51 am

    I like the perspective… very opportune for me today… 🙂

  13. Jeni Watts on February 26, 2014 at 8:31 pm

    Thank you for all of your heart advice. I am in love for the first time in years and it has been such a roller coaster sailing through past emotional turmoil and getting on a good footing to become the partner I want to be. Thank you for all of your wonderful advice – it has been a God send!

    • Shelly Bullard on March 3, 2014 at 2:43 am

      I’m glad, Jeni. Enjoy the ride of love! xo

  14. Caroline on February 26, 2014 at 8:46 pm

    More please!!! Love this video! You write beautifully & yours are the emails I take time to save in order to read & absorb with my Saturday relaxed coffee. In saying that, the energy in your video is beautiful & I connected with it much much more, love it!

    • Shelly Bullard on March 3, 2014 at 2:43 am

      Ah, thank you Caroline. That means a lot to me. xx

  15. Regina on February 28, 2014 at 11:27 am

    Shelley, loved your video. You look gorgeous and it’s great to be able to see you as I listen to your advice. I for one, will be waiting eagerly for your next roll-out.

    • Shelly Bullard on March 3, 2014 at 2:43 am

      YES!! Thank you Regina, I really appreciate it. xx

  16. Gayla Bridges on March 1, 2014 at 4:33 pm

    Shelly’s video really makes sense, and I realized I was doing exactly what she was talking about – taking masculine qualities into my love relationships – and I did it out of fear. Thanks for the wake-up call Shelly

    • Shelly Bullard on March 3, 2014 at 2:42 am

      You are welcome, Gayla!! A lot of us do this without realizing it, which is why it’s so important for us to talk about. Thank you for your comment. xo

    • Shelly Bullard on March 3, 2014 at 3:09 am

      You are welcome!!

  17. Jade on March 12, 2014 at 8:41 pm

    Dear Shelly,I’ve been following your work for some time and I am so happy to see you on YouTube! Your writing is amazing – wise, to the point, full of heart, and blissful to read. Thank you for sharing these golden teachings, which are truly soul food and huge catalysts in my life right now. With love xo

    • Shelly Bullard on March 13, 2014 at 3:32 pm

      Thank you Jade. That means a lot to me. xo

  18. S.lynn on March 17, 2014 at 2:08 am

    Great reminder on how to bring the woman to the relationship! I’ve a modern woman in the workplace and exude masculine energy for sure! I’m excited to bring more of the feminine to my new relationship and let him really be in control for the most part and lead us in our journey together in potential love! 🙂

  19. Tom Love on March 20, 2014 at 1:10 am

    Loved the video Shelly! Thanks so much!Love your style of presentation. Beautiful. Interesting. Keep up the good work.
    Looking forward to more Love from you.
    Thank you. xoxo

    • Shelly Bullard on March 21, 2014 at 1:31 am

      Thank you Tom!

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