: 10 March 2014

How to Attract Your Soul Mate

You have a soul mate. Someone you are meant to share a great love with.
If you haven’t found this person already, it’s likely you’re interested in meeting him or her. Good. You can. In this article, I’m going to tell you how.

By bringing awareness to what you want in a relationship, you are more likely to receive it. In that sense, you have control over your destiny in love.

Here are five steps you can take to prepare yourself for the greatest love of your life:

1) Believe in love.

Do you believe you can have a relationship that nourishes you, excites you, and keeps you coming back for more?

Do you believe that you have a soul mate? 

I hope so, because believing in love is a crucial (and non-negotiable) step in making it come true.

You can’t have a relationship that you don’t believe exists. Therefore, if you have any limiting beliefs about what is possible in love, you need to start challenging them ASAP.

If you find yourself thinking that an amazing relationship is not possible for you, tell yourself this: “No! This is a false belief. I know I am meant to have an amazing love.”

As you practice distinguishing your limiting thoughts, you’ll believe more and more that a great love is meant for you. And when this happens, anything is possible.

2) Heal old wounds.

It’s necessary for you to get acquainted with your wounds if you’re going to move beyond them. In getting to know your setbacks, you can take steps to heal this part of yourself, allowing a more fulfilling love to come to you.

How do you do this? First, recognize what you struggle with in relationships. This is could be an issue such as feeling abandoned, trapped, or not good enough. Once you know what the issue is, you heal it by taking care of yourself in the way that you have felt hurt by others.

Let me give you an example. If you have felt rejected in relationships, then you have to take steps to stop rejecting yourself. This means accepting your feelings, being kind to yourself, and making room for all parts of who you are.

As you love yourself in the way that you want to be loved, these wounds will heal. Once they do, you’ll no longer need to play them out with other people in your life.

3. Practice self love daily.

People are going to treat you the way that you treat yourself. Because of this, the best way to attract a partner who adores you is by adoring yourself. Not just on the surface, but deep inside, too.

Take care of yourself in the best way possible. Love all parts of who you are, trying to accept each aspect of your being. Treat yourself to decadence and the good life. Make it a priority to feel good everyday.

Honor yourself the way you want to be honored by a partner. This is one of the biggest secrets to finding a great love.

4. Enjoy life before your partner arrives.

If you are desiring a relationship that feels fantastic, then your life must feel fantastic before that person comes in.

Too often, people believe that the key to happiness is finding a partner, so they put happiness on hold in search of love. But this isn’t how it works!

Your life is happening now. The more you enjoy it, the more attractive you become to others, and the more likely you will enjoy your next partner when he or she arrives.

5. Live from your soul.

If you want to find your true soul mate–a person who authentically compliments your soul–then you must live from your soul.

To me, living from your soul is pretty straightforward. It means being in contact with the deeper part of who you are, your authentic self, and making a commitment to live your life from that place within you.

We all have souls. It is the truest essence of who you are. When you live in a soulful manner, others who match your passion, enthusiasm, grace, and love will make their way to you. A soulful person is impossible to resist.

I am so excited for you to embark on this journey of attracting the greatest love of your life. Remember that anything is possible if you believe it can be true.

Please leave a comment below telling us what you are going to do to attract your soul mate. I look forward to hearing from you!


  1. vaqar on March 11, 2014 at 8:33 pm

    I don’t know How to love myself anything I loved was loved by someone else also I gave it away for them and felt sorry for myself and happy for them

  2. katie on March 11, 2014 at 10:07 pm

    that was beautiful thank you so much shelly, god bless <3 xoxo kt

    • Shelly Bullard on March 11, 2014 at 10:28 pm

      I’m glad you enjoyed it, Katie. xo

  3. Rita on March 12, 2014 at 8:27 am

    Dear Shelly,
    It is so true, we have to live in the now, not waiting and wanting for surprises to come, we are the surprise and we have to unwrap ourselves graciously, be lovable with everyone we meet and treat ourselves as goddesses.
    Thank your.


    • Shelly Bullard on March 12, 2014 at 8:07 pm

      Love this, Rita!

    • JessYo on March 14, 2014 at 7:06 am

      I wholeheartedly agree!

    • Kinga on March 15, 2014 at 12:36 am

      Thank you Rita! I needed to hear it…

  4. duygu on March 12, 2014 at 10:10 am

    Shelly thank you for this nice articleYou mention if you are rejected it might be you are rejecting your self.
    Will you give an example on how a person can reject her/himself? Will you help me to understand what does it mean rejecting our self and how we can change it.
    Thank you

    • Shelly Bullard on March 12, 2014 at 8:07 pm

      Hi Duygu,Rejecting yourself means that you are not kind to yourself, you say means things to yourself, you have judgmental thoughts about yourself, you feel like you are unworthy, etc. Acting in any way that reinforces a belief system that you are not good enough. You have to start from the inside out, knowing that you are worthy – cultivating a deep sense of worth from within. Once you do this, others will begin to treat you better, too. xo

  5. Jodie on March 12, 2014 at 4:52 pm

    I love your articles!I’m truly feeling like I’m doing all of that. My life is rich and deep and so very good.
    Now, it’s just waiting for the one….
    I’m ready! 🙂

    • Shelly Bullard on March 12, 2014 at 7:07 pm

      Awesome! That’s all you need to do, then trust he is on his way. 🙂 xo

  6. beatrix on March 14, 2014 at 8:42 pm

    shelly i just want you to know i’ve been reading you for probably 6 months now, and following your advice has dramatically changed the way i view and interact with men. after many troubled and several “blah” relationships, i spent a lot of time alone, got real about me as the common denominator, challenged my beliefs, and started living from my soul in all of the ways i know how. i realized i was not leading w/ my authentic self, and i was getting involved with men who never quite “fit” as a result (many of them not in touch with their true selves). long meet-cute story short, i’m now dating a masculine, sexy man i never saw coming. he pursued me (i LET him!) and we’ve got a good little thing going right now. currently challenging my need to know “where it’s going– could he be the one?!” and just relax into getting to know him for now. but your words are helping with even this new challenge. you’re my first resource when an issue with a man has me stumped, and i always find one of your helpful inquiries, and i always get to the bottom of it! thank you thank you THANK you for the work you do in the world!

    • Shelly Bullard on March 14, 2014 at 10:12 pm

      Wow, Beatrix. Thank you so much for your message. This really, truly warms my heart. I am so glad that you are able to apply what I’m talking about to your own life, and that it’s making a big difference in your sense of well-being and happiness. I was just out to lunch with a friend and she was saying, “If I just help one person, I have made a difference.” Knowing that I have helped you means so much to me. With love, xo Shelly

      • Aiyana on September 26, 2016 at 8:46 pm

        Hey Shelly. You seem to know what you’re talking about. Hypothetically, if someone has a soulmate where they are famous, could it be a successful relationship? Some celebrities marry their fans. What’s your intake on it?

  7. Rebecca on March 19, 2014 at 10:42 pm

    Hi ShellyWOW! Ok so I have just found your beautiful articles and can’t seem to get enough!
    After reading the soul mate one above, some of what is said I have heard before and I had implemented the happiness and feeling whole before meeting a partner. I had that covered… So to speak! My issue has been since I have met him and now lived with him for 4 years, I have lost me again!
    This makes me ponder….. Where is the issue… If I’m real about it… It’s me! I gave up my joy for his, I was adamant that love doesn’t last, I refuse to marry him (because of my before mentioned rule) I feel unimportant to him all the time, because my needs are the least important to me.
    It would be easier to point the finger and say he makes me feel this or that, but the truth is we teach people how to treat us…
    I am getting busy now! Your article has reacted with my soul like a firecracker and I’m in motion…. This can be fixed… I now have hope!
    Thank you x

    • Shelly Bullard on March 21, 2014 at 1:38 am

      Awesome Rebecca!!! Glad to hear you are back to work, so to speak. We have to practice these principles everyday, or they stop working. Lots of love to you!

  8. Khushi on April 8, 2014 at 6:42 pm

    hello Ma’am
    you words have enlightened me..
    I read many of your pages today.My problem was I sometimes don’t get words to express my feelings.I love my soul mate a lot , from many days i saw that i stopped loving myself.A drastic change occured in me.I even don’t knew the reason about all my changed behaviors .But in searching for some heart relief,i found your website.And i’m really feeling It’s Helping Me.

    Thank you So much

  9. suneth on May 15, 2014 at 2:44 pm

    Wow.thanks for the encouraging words you put up here..nice one.

  10. Alessia on January 11, 2016 at 8:53 pm

    Meditate to connect with my soul and connect with my soulmate and expect us to meet any time now… I believe and expect miracles! Sending loads of love to all and praying that you will also be united with your beloveds soon.

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